Unwanted pregnancy can ruin your life and impede your growth.
I have cried for most part of today because of what a young woman is passing through.
Her life has not been the same because she took in and brought forth children at a time in her life when she didn’t need them.
I thank God for the spirit that led her to me. She was thinking suicide because life has become unbearable. Her family even despise her for getting pregnant out of wedlock.
The father of the kids does not care and does not send a penny to her for the upkeep of these children and she is just on her own.
Feeding is a problem…
She needs to go back to school and finish up but she can’t because there is no money…
She can’t get a job in the village and can’t leave the village because her mum says she won’t leave the kids with her.
See how the life of a 26 YO old woman is going.
Please ladies… Protect yourselves!
Nobody will be there for you.
Most spinsters cannot even feed themselves so imagine adding kids to the picture.
It’s not easy taking care of children. Nobody should deceive you.
If you are in school, concentrate on your studies first… Leave man till you are prepared and can shoulder any thing that comes out of it!
The guy will impregnate you and go about his normal business. You will be shamed and ridiculed. The stigma is all yours.
If an independent woman of 28 and above decides to take in, i won’t be bothered! It’s their decision. Maybe they want to be single mothers.
But if you still live with your parents, you still depend on them for fees and upkeep…
You have no business getting pregnant!
In my opinion, school girls should not be having sex.
Having boyfriends doesn’t mean you must have sex.
Learn from the mistakes of others.
At the end of the day, everyone who is encouraging you and giving you temporary shoulders to lean on will go home and you are alone with the reality of things.
Dear ladies, protect yourselves!
I don’t want to hear, it’s better to keep it than abort it. What I am saying is, no pregnancy in the first place till you are ready for it.
Dear mothers, I know it’s not your wish to have your daughter come home with pregnancy and no husband to be. It is painful. I don’t want to be in such shoes. But then if it happens, despising her is the last thing you should do. Don’t frustrate her further. She didn’t just disappoint you, she disappointed herself. Love her and don’t give neighbours and friends room to victimise and stigmatise her even more. Love her despite the mistake.
Dear men, the same advise of waiting till you are ready goes to you. Boys that can’t properly take their bath should have no business with sex. And the ones that have managed to start bathing well, please shoulder your responsibilities. Don’t abandon a lady you impregnated. It’s the height of wickedness to do so. Take care of those kids. Try.
Dear society, the baby mama has made a mistake. It’s staring her in the face. Stop despising her. Children are still blessings. Being a baby mama or having a child out of wedlock is not the worst thing anybody can do besides it’s not your business. If you can’t assist them, please leave them alone.
Other men, please stop taking advantage of the predicament of these ladies. It’s unfair. Empower them if you but sleeping with them because they need help and insulting them when they refuse is very animalistic. Respect yourself and stop assuming the position of God.
A woman who has children out of wedlock can still become whatever she wants to be.
They are not half human.