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Marilyn Oma Anona writes: why are you still jobless after such a long time?

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WHO DO YOU REALLY BLAME FOR BEING UNEMPLOYED AND JOBLESS FOR A LONG PERIOD OF TIME?

Over time I have come to realise that most people are just not serious with life and have simply failed to realise that what ever step we take today determines how our life will be in 10 years from now. It also determines how how lives will end.

Because they do not have this at the back of their minds, they play with their future which means playing with their lives.

Why are some people unemployed and jobless for a long time?

And why are some people on the other hand so busy and engaged and have never been idle at any point in time?

Some people ( the shallow and the overly sentimental ) would quickly want to blame the Goverment and the society!

But the 2 groups of people I mentioned above both make up the society so it means something is wrong with the individual who has been jobless and unemployed for so long.

The big questions you have to ask yourself are:
*** WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME?
*** What are my actually living for?
*** What are my contributing to the society?
*** What are my doing wrong?
Since after graduation, what have I done to put the knowledge gained at school to use?
*** What can I do other than what I studied in school?
*** what are my goals in life?
*** what are my doing to achieve these goals?
*** who am I?

Before I go on, let me point out that the major reason why most people are unemployed/ jobless for so long is LAZINESS.

A person who is not lazy will never feel comfortable lying down year in , year out and begging for money for the smallest things like sanitary pad and body cream.

Laziness, then greed (because most lazy people are greedy) and also self deceit (people not facing the reality on ground).

Most of us know UNOKA. Unoka was known to be very greedy. He would take his yam seedlings and just place them on top of the soil. Unoka will not till the soil, he won’t weed, he won’t make a mound or ridge, of course he won’t water!
Unoka would leave the yam seedlings on top of the soil while his mates are busy sweating and undergoing the right processes.
Unoka prefers instead to go to the gods with sacrifices asking them for a great harvest…

When the rains come, the yam seedlings dropped on top of the soil by unoka will be washed away while those planted by his mates will be growing and flourishing.

Time for harvest!

While others who invested their time, energy and resources are reaping the fruits of their labour…

Unoka as expected will have nothing to reap!

You know what Unoka would do?

He will feel so cheated and hated and instantly start to blame his chi.

He will start recounting the numerous sacrifices he made to his chi and how he planted and was not favoured.

How many of us are getting the points I am trying to make?

Now Unoka was not just lazy, he was also greedy and so shameless.
He owed everyone in his clan and beyond and loved to drink to a fault.

Unoka is a character in “THINGS FALL APART” a Chinua Achebe story I read as a kid.
Unoka was okonkwo’s father and his poor character was what motivated Okonkwo and he resolved to be the opposite of his father Unoka.

Let me give you a clear picture of the modern day Unoka…
I can’t exhaust all but the key ones will be given.

1. They are the class of people who claim to be working but are clearly not. They lie on their beds or sofas and send out unedited CVS to many companies. Most times they just click forward because they are annoyingly lazy to even edit and compose a fresh email. And when they send the CV to unilever for example, you can see the entire thread of similar CV sent to UBA, mtn, glo, Cadbury etc.
These set of people will always say, I have been sending in applications and I am never called.
WHO WILL CALL A CLEARLY LAZY AND DISORGANISED PERSON FOR AN INTERVIEW?

2. They are the class of people who will do no job, who will not play their part but will devote all their time moving from one church to the other and disturbing their pastors to lay hands on them for a miracle job. They will borrow money or beg for money to sow seed with. They will join the choir in their church ( they are singing in church / serving GOD ) so that a miracle job will come.

3. They are the class of people you often hear saying
*** upon all my faithfulness in serving GOD still no job.
*** I have been sowing seed and yet no job
*** GOD does not answer my prayers.

4. They are the class of people that would blame the society, government and their rich uncles or relatives endlessly. Unoka was always saying the rain was too much that is why he was not harvesting even 1 tuber of yam.
The rains then can be likened to the harsh economy now.
Unoka syndrome all the way.

4. These class of people are so lazy but love the good things of life and would go on borrowing or even stealing to get them.

5. Sometimes, when you even give them a solution, they will hate you for trying to stress them exactly what Unoka did when Agbala ( the female messenger ) of his chi ( god ) was sent to warn Unoka and also to give him directions on what to do.

Unemployed/jobless for so long? There is something you are doing wrong.
It’s not the society… Many are making it in the same society!

It’s not your rich uncles because they have refused to help you… Are you their responsibility? Why should they help you?

It’s not that GOD hates you!

It’s about you!

You have not discovered who you are and the reason why you are on earth.

If you have, you won’t be jobless for a week!

Stop lying down!
Stand up!

Some people even while in school or still not in school because of finances made a resolution that: NO MATTER WHAT, A DAY WILL NOT PASS ME BY WITHOUT ME ACHIEVING SOMETHING!

What did they do, they started searching for who they are and what they can do for themselves.
They embarked on the journey of self discovery and that was what made the difference.
With that they became multifunctional and as a result are relevant in so many places.

Most who are in this situation do not know themselves and because of that, they do not know their capabilities. They are therefore limited.

Most of us are grossly under utilising our brain capacity that is why this joblessness and unemployment issues are still on the increase.
Most have also refused to face reality.

The solution to this problem
1. Self discovery.
2. Have a set goal for your life , that way, you will be able to assess yourself.
3. Be ready to stress yourself, stretch yourself.
4. Face reality. Some of us have worked for 20,000 Naira per month. Some of us have worked without pay. Start doing something.
5. Stop thinking that the only people who succeed are the ones who know some highly placed people. It’s not true. Yes NEPOTISM does exist in our society but a higher percentage of the people who made it in history knew no one and came from backgrounds worse than ours.
6. Learn and accept the concept of process. You must pass through fire to be refined. Stop looking for easy. Stop looking for a big place to hide. You are a nation, start the process to be able to end up a product.

It’s in your hand! It depends in you!

The greatest people in this world were not made by government!

Those people do not have double heads or brains…

If they could do it, you and I can and a million times over because we have things they lacked!

LIVE WELL AND SUCCEED, make it work!

Marilyn Oma Anona
TV talk show host, public speaker, writer, counsellor

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Marilyn Oma Anona writes: Oma’s quotes.

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1. The hardest question for most people to answer is

“WHO ARE YOU?”

The funny thing about this question is the confident way people portray their ignorance.

They usually start by telling you their name, date of birth, place of origin, educational qualification and at the end fail to tell you who they are because truly they don’t know who they are!

So I ask… WHO ARE YOU?

Marilyn Oma Anona
TV talk show host, public speaker, writer, actor and counsellor

2.A stingy soul is a stingy soul…
You don’t have to have the entire world to be generous!

It’s in the heart.

Marilyn Oma Anona
TV talk show host, public speaker, writer, actor and counsellor

3. Self motivation is the best thing that can happen to an individual and it comes out of a burning desire to succeed against all odds.
A person who is self motivated does not see road blocks, hurdles, challenges or hitches as a sign to give up but as a great opportunity to succeed.
People who are self motivated are those who believe in self development and know that they are accountable for their failure or success.
Self motivated people are highly independent people.
Self motivation is possible when you have a goal in life and a set time to achieve it.

You are URGED to motivate yourself today.
No matter what Oma says, you must agree with me that you only make giant strides when you have decided to push yourself .
It makes more sense to say, ” I can and I must” than “Oma says I can, therefore I think I might”

Let’s all develop a sense of INDEPENDENCE, have a set GOAL, and push ourselves to the EXTREME. That way, RESULTS are inevitable .

Marilyn Oma Anona
TV talk show host, public speaker, writer, actor , counsellor

4. Check the life of the one who is always giving up…
He doesn’t progress!

Check the life of the one who is always giving reasons for no results…
He never progresses!

Don’t ever take no for an answer…
When someone says no, its a time to press harder!
There is an opportunity in everything including NO!
Stop giving reasons and excuses…
If that guy can make it happen, you can!

LIVE WELL AND SUCCEED… Make it work!

Marilyn Oma Anona
TV talk show host, public speaker, writer, actor and counsellor

5.Accepting defeat with Grace shows how classy you are to a great extent!

Marilyn Oma Anona
TV talk show host, public speaker, writer, actor, counsellor

MARILYN OMA ANONA writes :You Decided!!!

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You Decided…
Yes darling… You decided!

You decided to give away your love.
You decided to remain hurt.
You decided to give up.

You decides to react.
You decided to feel insecure.
You decided to fume.
You decided to fight a war you will never win.

You decided to be a prey.
You decided to ignore your intuition.
You decided to ignore advice.
You decided to look the other way.
You decided not to listen.
You decided to be stuck in the past.

You decided to blame and keep blaming.
You decided to be right even though you are wrong.
You decided to be foolishly arrogant.
You decided what games to play.
You decided to be paranoid.
You decided to compete.
You decided to make enemies.
You decided your fate.

You decided…
Yes darling… you decided!

BUT DARLING CAN YOU PERMIT ME ADVISE YOU?
You may decide not to listen to ‪#‎oma‬ but I want to still do my part…

So I advise you to

Decide to let go.
Decide to cling onto dignity.
Decide to forgive yourself.
Decide to forgive others.
Decide to imbibe value.
Decide to show the world you are all about positive.
Decide to discover yourself.
Decide to make us proud.
Decide to play your part in making the world a better place.

It’s Oma saying:

LIVE WELL AMD SUCCEED… Make it work!

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Keep calm and keep loving Oma!

MARILYN OMA ANONA writes: Selective Tribalism.

A group of people who claim to be TRIBALIST but are so very confused !

You are very TRIBALISTIC yet you can’t stay permanently in your hometown…
You are from say Anambra state yet you live in ABUJA, Kano, Kaduna, Ibadan, Lagos with the same people who hate you so much ( according to you )!

Your landlord, employer and or employees, your hairs dresser, your dress maker, your cobbler etc are not from your tribe yet you do businesses with them!

How about that contract you did the last time and the ones you have been doing since , were they given to you by your village people?

The last trip you made from LAGOS to Abuja. I expected you to walk up to the Customer Care Desk and ask if the pilot, the hosts and the other passengers are all from ABAGANA. You didn’t do that and I thought you are so tribalistic darling!

Why do you go to ABA to buy Materials if you think the IGBOS are so greedy and love money a lot? You should have not gone close to that place.

Tufia, Yoruba people eh, Igbo people eh yet we enter the same church together on Sunday. There should have been a separate church for you and your village people alone!

SOUNDCITY for example is owned by a Yoruba man, yet you stay glued to it!

Dangote is Hausa , but you eat his noodles and use his cement!

Fidelity is an Igbo bank yet accommodates other tribes!

Did I hear you say ” oh it’s just business?”

Sweetheart, if you can do business with people from other tribes, you can just do anything with them and you should live in peace and see yourselves as one.

The truth is, people are just SELECTIVELY TRIBALISTIC…
They practice TRIBALISM when it is convenient for them.

Anyone who wants to be truly TRIBALIST will never be successful in life and will die a sad person!

Every sect, group, nation etc have history!

It should not destroy us but make us better!

Ada, Bola, Amina, come together we are one!

Funsho, Yusuf, Obinna stop swearing and cursing, we are one!

Let’s enjoy our beauty as a Multi ethnic nation!

We all have our strength and weaknesses!

One love!!!

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Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!