Archive | February 2015

Marilyn Oma Anona writes: ONE DAY YOU WILL WAKE UP AND YOU ARE 30… WHAT DID YOU DO IN YOUR 20s?

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If you spend sleepless nights wondering whether you are on the brink of the next big thing or teetering dangerously close to spending the rest of your life in your parents’ house or not having a life at 25, 26, 28 etc, This is a list of the things you should do in your 20s to be happy in your 30s and 40s… The 20s phase is a very sensitive part in our life so we should be aware of all we are doing during this time.

1. Don’t be afraid to jump at an opportunity. In your 20s, you are still early in your career and life, so you not only have less serious obligations so when an opportunity presents itself that seems really unique or interesting, go for it!
2. Don’t waste your time in a job you hate. Find a job that you are excited to wake up and go to every morning. And if you can, save a little money, please do! Having a little financial freedom will allow you more room to pursue your passion with ease. And when I say a job you are excited to wake up to, passion and flair are key and should come before money to avoid depression in the long run. This is the time for you to embrace the principle of process that will pay you enormously in future. This is sowing time.
3. Don’t buy into what others may prescribe for you! Go after your passion/dream. Don’t be afraid to make that cold call, speak up in a meeting, or try something that scares you every now and then. Ask for what you want and you will get there a lot sooner than you think! There are no limits to what you can accomplish.
4. Write down your non-negotiables. Your 20s are a time to be selfish and to figure yourself out, what you like and more importantly what you are not willing to tolerate. Figuring out your non-negotiables is a must to happiness in the personal and professional areas of your life. 5. Do that thing you are afraid of. If you are scared of heights, sky dive. If you are scared of public speaking, join the Omaliving Show Club. If you are scared of failure, do something you know you aren’t good at, in front of people, if at all possible. Facing small fears will make you a bolder and braver person in all other aspects of your life and the big scary decisions – moving across the country, quitting your job, starting your own company – won’t seem so scary.
6. Be willing to embarrass yourself. The possibility for greatness and embarrassment both exist in the same space. If you are not willing to be embarrassed, you are not willing to be great. The biggest risk of our twenties would be never taking any risks at all. By risk I do not mean having multiple sexual partners or driving recklessly or alcoholism or smoking and so many negative vices people easily choose, I mean embarking on that tedious journey of self discovery and taking the bull by the horn even when people doubt your ability.
7. Look ahead! Being behind isn’t about comparing yourself to other people. You are behind in your 20s if you can’t get the life you want for yourself by your 30s or 40s. Dare to be intentional with your life, and to be real with yourself about what you think you may want in 10 years. If that’s too scary, ask this question: If I keep living my life exactly as I am now, do I like where I will be in five years? If not, then something needs to change because that’s where you are on track to wind up. 8. Make time to stop and reflect. Reflecting will allow you to see the signs that the world is giving you about your purpose. Once you find that purpose, jump at every opportunity to live for your purpose. And hold on tight because it’s going to be a bumpy ride. No great man had it easy. Greatness comes with a lot of stress.
9. Discover your purpose and origin. If you believe in a Creator, then know your Creator in order to discover your Created Purpose. If you don’t believe in a Creator, then believe there’s a legitimate reason why you were put on the planet. That gives you genuine purpose. And purpose is a fuel that’s non-toxic to yourself and others.
10. Choose your friends wisely. The biggest lesson we should learn in our twenties is to look around at the people we are hanging out with. Are they using their time and talents wisely? Have they decided what and who they want to be in life? Our circle of influence defines who we are.
11. Realize that your 20s are going to fly by. No joke. The time is going to pass anyway. You will be 30 before you know it. And when you wake up 30, the only question will be whether you gave it your all. Just go for it! You might fail, but at least you had the guts to try. If there’s something you want to do, then just go do it! Don’t wait.
12. Don’t rush. A lot of us in our 20s are in a hurry to get to where we want to be: graduated, established, promoted, in love. Your 20s are a time where it is ok to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. Don’t be in a rush to be who you are going to be. Just enjoy being who you are.

I hope with these 12 points I have driven home my points… In taking down these points always remember that you only live once!

Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!

OMA SAYS ” LIVE WELL AND SUCCEED, MAKE IT WORK!”

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Marilyn Oma Anona writes: Why the fake foreign accent?

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So many ways to pick out low self esteem issues and inferiority complex…

I still wonder why some folks strive so hard to have a foreign accent…

They muddle the whole thing up in such a way they not only sound confused and funny but also look so pathetic making me embarrassed as a result!

It comes to a stage where it becomes out rightly ridiculous. The foreign accents are not defined as you have English, American, Jamaican and even Indian in one sentence!

It’s gets terrible when you can no longer understand what they are saying and they are also lost as well and they often decide to cover up with this totally embarrassing off point laughter!

If someone was actually born and raised in England or America or has spent a good number of their formative years there , very good. This time the accent is genuine .

The people I am talking about are those who travelled to England for just 6 to 12 months and come back with the accent thing and then this category that have never been close to a local airport but always crawl to their neighbours to watch e! And then start to worry us with pathetic accents!

I am writing about this because it’s getting worse…
I have been encountering this a lot recently but I don’t want to localise it to the events.

But the people who are most guilty of this nonsense are the people we call OAPs and some presenters…

This is so funny! I hear them chirping like birds on the radio more reason I loathe listening to our radio stations…

In a situation where there are 2 or more persons presenting, you can feel what seems like a competition of wanting to overdo the other person in the fake accent thing, Kai!

All you hear is chirping and unnecessarily laughter because forming accents makes you at a lose on what to say then they go seriously? Wow ( so many times ), etc…

My questions are:

1. Why is it too difficult to be original?
2. Why do we lose our entire identity in a bid to copy?

In as much as there are too many fakes around, there are still some naturals!

Eloquence doesn’t mean you have to form a foreign accent or come down here to be speaking England’s pidgin English for us…

Yes some of us know the difference!

Every country have their peculiar accent!

If you are not English, you can never be English!

Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!

MARILYN OMA ANONA writes: You don’t need the dead weight.

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Marilyn Oma Anona


Its a very big world yet its a small world. The world is big because there are lots of people dwelling in it. And as such, you meet all sorts of people.

The ones who will add values to our lives, the ones who worsen our lives, the ones who will help to mend our damaged lives and out rightly detrimental people. Of these groups of people I just listed, you should never mingle with the outrightly detrimental people. But no matter who you meet, the truth is you can only trust you. But since no one man is an island and we must mingle, we need to surround ourselves with people who will encourage us to grow. People who will not be a dead weight on us. We have to therefore cut off the negative and highly detrimental people out of our lives. We don’t need them. We need to try as much as we can to stay away from them.

Yes, avoid them! because most times these negative and outrightly detrimental people are incapable. And those who are incapable themselves will try and cast their issues onto you. They look for any way to release the burden they have on their own lives and do so in a poor manner. You must not allow yourself to fall victim to these people, because they will only take away from your life’s happiness and drain you totally.

Don’t get me wrong o! It is important to be nice to people, but you cannot do so at the expense of your own happiness. Nothing changes until we do. We cannot expect the situations around us to change if our personal behaviors do not change. You must take responsibility and if it means keeping away from negative people, then so be it. You need to look out for yourself because at the end of the day, you only have yourself to blame for your failures and your successes.
Its a beautiful Wednesday and before you start enjoying the day , I want you to know these set of people and avoid them if they have refused to change.

Don’t let them drag you down.

***** THE UNFORGIVING. My dear, please stay away from that person who finds it terribly hard to forgive. We all know what forgiveness is.

***** THE JUDGE. We don’t need that man or woman who constantly condemns us or use a simple mistake as an avenue to tell us terrible things. A good friend or associate should correct not condemn or judge. Stay away from that judge. Most times, they are terribly full of flaws themselves and are the ones who need to be judged.

***** MR AND MRS NEGATIVE. These people are very very pessimistic and will weigh you down with tales of woes and darkness. Do you need such stories? Yes! the economy is bad… So what? It will get better tomorrow and we will all smile. We don’t need those who will make us feel that there is no remedy to adverse situations. We don’t need people who complain all the time and yet don’t proffer solutions.

***** THE LAZY.
Laziness is a disease, one that is highly contagious. Lazy people make other people lazy. The more you hang around the immobile, the less you will feel the need to be mobile. Hang around lazy people too often and you will notice your productivity generally decline.

***** THE SHOWOFF ADDICTS.
Those who feel the need to be showy are always compensating for something and trying to prove their worth to themselves. Unfortunately for them, this is how you know they have little worth. Showing and trying to make other people envious is a waste of time, unless you are trying to make yourself feel better about yourself at the expense of others. People that do such things are not the kind of people you want to keep around.

***** THE PARASITES. When our friends are at a difficult point in their lives, there is no reason not to help them out or to offer to pay for their food/movie ticket so they come out and have fun with the rest of the group. The problem is when the person seems comfortable in the position and is making little to no effort of improving their financial situation.

***** THE ALWAYS DEPRESSED.
Not those that have an actual chemical imbalance, but those who act like they do. We all know people who are always feeling bad for themselves, always complaining about how difficult their lives are and how unlucky they are. Bad luck is not a lifelong circumstance. If your life sucks, then guess what? It’s mostly, if not entirely, your fault. Don’t keep these folks around unless you want them to bring you down with them.

***** THE COMFORT ZONE LOVERS. Please, please and please stay away from those who are too scared of leaving their comfort zone. Those who are very comfortable with just eating 3times a day, having sex and engaging in leisure. You don’t need such folks around you believe me.

. ***** THOSE WITHOUT A DREAM, AMBITION OR GOAL. These ones are very risky o. They are just like blind people. Where does a blind man lead you to? You are so done for when you have these type of people always around you. Please dissociate.
When you move with the right people, your life gets better. Two blind men should not move together. And you should not be led by a blind man too. The wrong company will make you remain in the same shoes forever. And while you pray to GOD to please help you out of the messy situation you find yourself in, you fail to see that the solution is with you. Get rid of these leeches. Keep them far away. See them when there is need. Don’t in a bid to please people, depress yourself. Like my friend Dazzy would say, “you can’t please world people”. I don’t know why I wrote about this today. This is a typical Monday topic. But I know someone has greatly benefited from it. You all have a fun filled Wednesday.

Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!

Oma

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IN THE NAME OF DEMOCRACY: A PLEA TO MY COUNTRYMEN BY BARR KENNETH OKONKWO

Bar Kenneth Okonkwo

Bar Kenneth Okonkwo

Democracy has been universally accepted to mean the government of the people by the people for the people. On independence, Nigeria was bequeathed with a flourishing democracy by the British colonial masters. The quest and struggle for independence was largely fought on peaceful democratic principles.

We had a very acceptable constitution that recognized our diversity and ensured the practice of true federalism. The component units were healthily competitive and without oil, we were an emerging African economic power. Indeed, even the Colonial masters on independence described Nigeria as a potential super power nation and the land where the sun never sets.

However, when the British departed, we had only one major threat to our Democracy � Elections. How do we organize elections that will be free, fair and credible enough to be accepted in order to prevent violence and the eventual truncation of our democracy.

Historically, the first Republic was truncated as a result of violence resulting from a rigged election predominantly from the South West of Nigeria. The same scenario happened in 1983, when the administration of Alhaji Shehu Shagari was truncated by the Military led by General Muhammadu Buhari. The violence in the South West was the main reason for that Coup

Each time the Military came in, they promised a brighter future for us but eventually left us worse than we were before their incursion into politics. The worst aspect of military regimes is that they even leave the military institutions weakened, demoralised, divided and segmented in order to ensure that no military colleague will be strong enough to overthrow the current regime. The gradual and intentional neglect of our military over the years by military regimes is what we are suffering today in our war against Boko Haram and other insurgents. Can you imagine if Major Kaduna Nzeogwu, Col  Dimka, Gen Muritala Mohammed, Gen Aguiyi Ironsi, Major Gideon Orka, Major General Mamman Vatsa and so on were still alive and had completed their career as professional Soldiers. These men were the best of the military around the world and so much excelled in their military profession that they won international accolades. Aguiyi Ironsi was awarded the rank of Major General by the International community because of his excellent performance during peace keeping missions across Africa. So was Dimka, who had the record of scaling under the lowest barbed wire during his training in NDA, Mamman Vasta was the best poet the military ever produced. There was one thing common with all of them. They were the best of the Military that were consumed by the Military itself. So the military regime is a regime that spares nobody including itself. My belief is that denying a person of his life or freedom without due process of law is the worst form of corruption. This makes military regimes and other undemocratic regimes the most corrupt regimes despite the purported spartanic and hypocritical lifestyle of their leaders when they venture into power. This also makes my belief in democracy with all its flaws unshakable.

We are now at the threshold of another election in 2015. I must congratulate Nigerians for allowing democracy to flourish for an uninterrupted period of 16 years. This success did not come about as a result of free and fair elections conducted by successive regimes but it came about from the sacrifices of statesmen who forsook their rights for the benefit of the whole nation. The Yorubas in 2003 lost five out of six states to the ruling PDP in circumstances which they described as not being free and fair. Yet unlike what they did in the 60�s and 80�s that earned them the wild wild west, they forsook violence and allowed the elections to stand for the general good. In 2007, the opposition parties in Yoruba land, after some legal gymnastics, captured 3 more states, leaving the PDP with only 2 states and by 2011, the whole states in Yoruba land were in the hands of the opposition. This is the beauty of democracy; it redresses injustices over a period of time. The change cannot be automatic. . Example when Obafemi Awolowo in the sixties perceived that the elections were not free and fair, it was said that he organized a violent overthrow of the government and ended up being jailed in the very popular  �my hands were tied� judgment. The crisis precipitated by the violence led to the Coup of 1966 which led to the counter coup of July 1966 which led to the civil war which resulted to the loss of over a million lives. Everybody lost.

Again in 1983, Chief  Obafemi Awolowo believed that the elections in the South West were rigged: By his body language even when there was no evidence he authored the violence, there was equally no evidence that he proactively did anything to stop the violence. The violence in the South West led to the end of the Civilian regime of Alhaji Shagari and everybody, except the beneficiaries of Shagari�s regime, hailed the incoming military regime of General Muhammadu Buhari as liberators. It took only few weeks for the late Sage�s house to be ransacked and vandalized by the regime of Buhari in a bid to get incriminating evidence against him. This regime, because of its high handedness was overthrown by the regime of Gen. Ibrahim Babangida in 1985 and was also hailed as a liberator. Gen Ibrahim Babangida, for no reason whatsoever, banned the late Sage, Chief Obafemi Awolowo from contesting elections for life. This put final paid to his eternal ambition to govern Nigeria even if it is for twenty four hours and left him with no further motivation to live. He concluded by saying that �the worst civilian government is better than the best military government�. I wish he realised this in the sixties, and encouraged that fledgling democracy to survive. He would have had the opportunity to contest elections for more than 7 times and who knows, maybe he would have won.

2015 is unique in various ways. This is the first time the Nation is having two strong parties that evolved on their own, contesting elections. What a great democratic achievement! This is the first time Nigeria will be conducting elections while the federation is at war. What a great democratic challenge! Hence my plea to my countrymen to accept the results of the elections as declared by INEC without violence and use lawful means to seek redress in the case of any perceived injustice.

I will make the plea to the different major segments of the society-

– TO THE POLITICIANS

Politicians are the major gladiators in a democracy. They make policies, offer themselves to be voted for, occupy the seat of power and determine the destinies of the Nation and the individual citizens. Their actions or inactions determine the success or failure of democracy.

In Advanced countries, politicians are known to make sacrifices before, during and after elections for the survival and prestige of their nations. During the American Presidential elections of year 2000, Governor George Bush and Vice president Al Gore were the Presidential candidates of the Republican Party, Democratic Party respectively. After the elections, Al Gore won the popular vote while George Bush won the Electoral College vote. Constitutionally, whoever wins the Electoral College votes becomes the President. To make matters worse, the Florida state elections which became the deciding factor was believed to be manipulated in favour of George Bush by his brother Governor Jeb Bush of Florida. It took America fifty days, instead of one day to resolve this crisis. There were court cases that reached the American Supreme Court. America became a laughing stock in the comity of nations. After the judgment of the American Supreme Court, Al Gore though he disagreed with the judgment, accepted it and conceded victory to George Bush and saved America the shame and ridicule.

In Nigeria, the case is different. Most Politicians are impatient, callous, destructive and selfish. It is either they win or the process be truncated. They engage in politics of do or die. In our recent history MKO Abiola of the Social Democratic Party (SDP) won the Presidential election in 1993. The National Republican Convention (NRC) engaged in a fierce campaign to annul the election. Their Presidential candidate, Alhaji Tofa refused to concede victory. Eventually, General Ibrahim Babangida, the then Head of state, annulled the election. The annulment brought a lot of chaos in the country that swept IBB aside and eventually led to the emergence of General Sani Abacha as Head of state. General Sani Abacha killed some of the Politicians, jailed some of them and forced some into an unwilling self exile. The call by politicians for the truncation of democracy after they lose is always self destroying. They always erroneously think that any intervening force will remove their opponents and replace their opponents with them, only to find out belatedly that the intervening force takes over power to fulfil its own agenda.

We are now on the threshold of general election 2015. For all intents and purposes there are circumstances which already exist that can form the basis of controversy after the results of the elections are announced. The insurgency in the three North East states of Borno, Yobe and Adamawa and the inadequacy of the permanent voter�s card are just some of them. The only thing remaining is whether we can find enough political statesmen who can disagree with the results but accept them for the general good of the nation

My plea, therefore, to Politicians is that they should eschew the call for violence, mass action, bathing dogs and baboons with blood, forming a parallel government, making the country ungovernable just because the results did not favour them. In this regard, the peace accord signed by all the parties where they pledged not to be violent after elections is welcomed. I pray they see it through

-TO THE YOUTHS

The youths constitute the bulk of the workforce of the nation. They are the energy, beauty and pride of any nation. The health and power of the youth today determine the future of the Nation.

In Nigeria, the decisions of the leaders affect the youths positively or negatively and invariably the future of the nation. The bulk of the insurgents today, whether Boko Haram or Niger Delta militants are all composed of youths and they arose as a result of the actions or inactions of the leaders in power.

My plea to the youths is to imbibe this admonition by the President of Nigeria, Dr Goodluck Jonathan which states that �no politician�s ambition is worth the blood of any Nigerian�. As a politician myself, I can tell you that majority of politicians are selfish. They will pay you to be a thug but pay their children�s school fees to study abroad. They will pay you to die for them but will pay for the best hotels abroad to keep their children if war breaks out.  In this coming 2015 elections, they have recruited majority of the youths to roast, kill, destroy, bath the dogs and baboons with blood and make the country ungovernable if some of them lose the election. My question is, during the electoral violence of 2011, which category of people were killed-youths. While you die to fertilize their ambition, they nurture their own children to succeed them in their various offices. Please when they call you again to cause trouble after elections, refuse or ask that their own children should lead the uprising.

-TO THE MILITARY

The military reflects the strength and dignity of the nation. No Nation can attain a super power status without a strong, loyal and courageous military. The US became a super power today because of the steadfast dedication of its military to the protection of its democracy and wading off external aggression. Also, USSR, China, Britain, France are nations whose military assisted their rise to international prominence.

In Nigeria, our military has been known to be the most powerful force in Africa from independence. The numerous military incursions into politics weakened this great institution to the extent that during Abacha�s regime, officers were framed up or set up for treasonable offences and condemned to death. Mutual suspicion among soldiers was so high that barrack life collapsed amongst them.

By 1999, President Olusegun Obasanjo retired all military officers who had held political offices before that date. This further led to the depletion of the finest of officers among the soldiers.

My plea to the military today is that they should stay away from politics. This will enable them focus their attention on their constitutional duty of protecting the territorial integrity of the nation. I have no doubt in my mind that the military is always lured into incursion in politics by politicians who lost elections or fell out with the system. But they should resist this satanic lure as this would lead to destroying itself eventually

The 2015 elections will present peculiar challenges to the military since they are engaging the Boko Haram insurgents and may also be called in to secure the elections. They should not lend themselves as agents of rigging and must ensure that there is no violence after elections. Love of country and its constitution should be their priority rather than blind loyalty to any candidate.

-TO THE CLERGY

The clergy constitutes the Pastors, Priests, Prophets, Imams and all the classes of men that can be classified as servants of God by whatever name its religion is called.

The essential duty of the clergy in governance was summarised by Apostle Paul in his admonition to men of God. He said �I exhort therefore, that first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions and giving of thanks, be made for all men; for kings and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty�. (1 Timothy 2:1-2). I want to believe that other religion have similar provisions in their sacred books.

In Nigeria, unfortunately, our men of God have become more political than the politicians. It has become a regular feature to see our Priests, Prophets, Pastors, Imams use their pulpits to propagate the agenda of hate against candidates and parties. They make dubious prophecies which create the basis for violence when such prophecies fail to come to pass.

I remember when one �man of God� prophesied that Obasanjo will die before assuming office in 1999. The fear created by that prophecy led to a riot in Oshodi which led to the death of some people and prompted Obasanjo to make that famous statement �I dey kampe�  He went on to govern for 8 years.

I believe that the rise in Islamic fundamentalism leading to an unprecedented violence against fellow Muslims and other innocent people has its roots in hate sermons of some Imams and their persistent message of intolerance to other beliefs

My plea to them is to stand fast in the calling wherein they are called. Even if the politicians are bad and the people sin, it is their duty to plead with God to show mercy, forgive the people and heal their land (2 chronicles7:14)

CONCLUSION

It may be by divine providence that our 2015 elections is slated to commence on February 14th, 2015. A day set aside by the whole world to celebrate love. Saint Valentine was said to have made a supreme sacrifice for love. We can do the same in Nigeria. Love covers multitude of sins. We must use the power of love to overcome the power of violence and destruction after our elections.

As I pointed out earlier, we have numerous challenges today that can naturally question the validity of the elections but we are praying to have politicians who are willing to disagree with the results but accept them for the general good. They must remember the admonition of Winston Churchill that �the statesmen lose control immediately the guns begin to fire.�

I make this plea in the name of democracy  
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