Archive | June 2014

MARILYN ANONA writes: Your favourite colour, reflects the way you operate in the world, your strengths and weaknesses, your vulnerabilities, your deepest needs and your challenges at that time in your life.

Yesterday, I wrote a post on my facebook wall on how a great friend of mine was able to say my favourite colour from the way I behave. There are many things that define us… Today, its about colours and what they say about you. Now before I continue , I want you to quickly answer this question, “WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE COLOUR” the answer has to come to your mind without you thinking about it. And sometimes, we have more than one favourite colour, our love for these colours may be equal or in different degrees. My favourite colours are Pink, green, yellow, royal blue, black but Pink is my most favourite. On entering my bedroom, you will notice my favourite colours. Your favourite colour, reflects the way you operate in the world, your strengths and weaknesses, your vulnerabilities, your deepest needs and your challenges at that time in your life. Now, you must know that your favourite colour does not have to be one you wear all the time; it is usually, the colour that excites you the most and makes you feel alive when you see it. That being said, you are often drawn to your favourite colour for clothing and home decorating. It is often a predominant colour in your aura. Dislike of a Colour

The colours you dislike can tell you a lot about yourself as well, often reflecting your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. Your most disliked colour will relate to areas in your life that need to be given attention or past hurts that need to be healed. It is a good idea to try to incorporate a small amount of your disliked colours into your life by using them in clothing or underwear or in your home, to help balance your energies. Rejecting whole colours can create imbalances in your life. Does everyone have a favorite colour?

Most of us do and many of us have had the same one since childhood. Some will change this colour once or more times during their lifetime while others will have one colour for their whole lifetime. Some will prefer another colour for a while, depending on their needs at that time, but will come back to their original favourite when those specific needs are met.

For those of you who don’t think you have a favourite colour, look at the clothes you wear and the way you choose to decorate your home or office. Are there one or more colours you consistently choose? Then these will be the colours that reflect your personality and your deepest needs. Whether you like or dislike a colour can be dependent on your own life experiences and your positive and negative associations to the colour as well as your need for the qualities of that colour.

Surround yourself with the colours you love, either by wearing them or using them decoratively in your environment. They will empower you to be true to yourself, to show your true colours.

Always use a small amount of other colours with your favorites to keep your energies and behavior balanced.

Have you changed your favourite color?

If you have changed your favourite colour, try to identify the circumstances surrounding your life at that time as your new favorite will reflect qualities you need to attract into your life to help you deal with those circumstances.
Now, find out what this color expert has to say about your favorite color. What does it reveal about who you really are?

White: Symbolic of purity, innocence and naivete, white has strong connotations of youth and purity. If you are an older person, your preference for white could indicate a desire for perfection and impossible ideals, maybe an attempt to recapture lost youth and freshness. It may also symbolize a desire for simplicity or the simple life.

Red: The color of strength, health, and vitality, Red is often the color chosen by someone outgoing, aggressive, vigorous and impulsive—or someone who would like to be! It goes with an ambitious nature but those who choose it can be abrupt at times, determined to get all they can out of life, quick to judge people and take sides. Red people are usually optimistic and can’t stand monotony; they are rather restless and not at all introspective, so they may be unaware of their own shortcomings. They find it hard to be objective and may blame others for any mishaps. Quiet people with a preference for red may feel the need for the warmth, strength and life-giving qualities of the color, or they blanket their true feelings under a sober exterior. Red is usually chosen by people with open and uncomplicated natures, with a zest for life.

Maroon: Harsh experience has probably matured the Maroon person into someone likable and generous. It is often a favorite color of someone who has been battered by life but has come through. It indicates a well-disciplined Red personality—one who has had difficult experiences and has not come through unmarked but who has grown and matured in the process.

Orange: This color of luxury and pleasure appeals to the flamboyant and fun-loving person who likes a lively social round. Orange people may be inclined to dramatize a bit, and people notice them, but they are generally good-natured and popular. They can be a little fickle and vacillating, but on the whole they try hard to be agreeable. Orange is the color of youth, strength, fearlessness, curiosity and restlessness.

Yellow: The color of happiness, wisdom and imagination, Yellow is chosen by the mentally adventurous, searching for novelty and self-fulfillment. Yellow usually goes with a sunny and shrewd personality, with a good business head and a strong sense of humor. It is the color of intellectuality and all things to do with the mind. Yellow folks are usually clear and precise thinkers who have a good opinion of their own mental capacities and who have lofty ideals. They may at times tend to shun responsibility, preferring freedom of thought and action.

Green: The color of harmony and balance, Green symbolizes hope, renewal and peace, and is usually liked by the gentle and sincere. Greens are generally frank, community-minded people, fairly sociable but preferring peace at any price. Green people can be too self-effacing, modest and patient, so they may get exploited by others. They are usually refined, civilized and reputable.

Blue: Soft, soothing, compassionate and caring, Blue is the color of deliberation and introspection, conservatism and duty. Patient, persevering, conscientious, sensitive and self-controlled, Blues like to be admired for their steady character and wisdom. They are faithful, but are often worriers with somewhat inflexible beliefs and can be too cautious, and suspicious of flamboyant behavior.

Blue-Green: Exacting, discriminating, poised and attractive, the Blue-Green person tends to be sensitive, intellectual and refined, persevering and stable if rather detached. Blue-Greens have excellent taste, and are usually courteous and charming, capable but often refusing help or guidance.

Turquoise: Complex, imaginative and original, Turquoise people drive themselves hard and may be in a state of turmoil under their outwardly cool exterior.

Lavender: This is often chosen by a person who lives “on a higher plane,” who never notices anything sordid and who is always impeccably and beautifully dressed. Lavender people may be on a continual quest for culture and the refined things of life, high and noble causes but without the necessity of getting their hands dirty. A Lavender person is usually creative, charming, witty and civilized.

Purple: Purples are highly individual, fastidious, witty and sensitive, with a strong desire to be unique and different. Temperamental, expansive and artistic, a Purple person may become aloof and sarcastic when misunderstood. If you chose Purple, you tend to be unconventional, tolerant and dignified, likely to achieve positions of authority.

Brown: A Brown person has stamina and patience, tending to be very solid and substantial, conscientious, dependable, steady and conservative. Browns are not impulsive, and may be inarticulate and tactless but they love responsibility and are reliable and kindly. If you chose Brown, watch out for a tendency to be obstinate and inflexible.

Gray: The color of caution and compromise, diligent Grays search for composure and peace and often work hard without reward. Older Grays like life to run on an even keel with few ups and downs. Young Grays may be withdrawing from life and suppressing their personalities. Grays often have good business ability and tend to work too much.

Black: Dignified and impressive without being showy, Black people want to give the appearance of mystery, but their preference may also indicate a suppression of desires and worldly aims, suggesting hidden depths and inner longings.

This writing is originally (Apart from the introduction) from The Healing Power of Color by Betty Wood. Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!

SO PINK- Marilyn Anona.

I AM JUST TOO PINK…..I have this great friend who can tell about a person by the simple things we don’t even imagine. He told me that I was a PERFECTIONIST or very close to one… He was observing me and I didn’t even know! He said from the minute he saw my eye brow, he saw a PERFECTIONIST! Lol… Then again, he told me that people like me usually have pink as their favourite colour. Again, I was amazed. He went on to say that a person’s favourite colour goes a long way to define who that person is. He said I am Child like yet nurturing, and I am driven by love which is always unconditional and I am very compassionate. I am mature yet NAÏVE. I am very sensitive and intuitive… I am very soft hearted and exude a very gentle loving energy… He said a lot which made me to read up about colours and their meanings! Most times, we unconsiously love things without knowing why but that because “THAT’S WHO WE ARE”. Here is the meaning of pink ***** This color represents compassion, nurturing and love. It relates to unconditional love and understanding, and the giving and receiving of nurturing. The deeper the pink, the more passion and energy it exhibits.

Pink is feminine and romantic, affectionate and intimate, thoughtful and caring. It tones down the physical passion of red replacing it with a gentle loving energy.

Pink is intuitive and insightful, showing tenderness and kindness with its empathy and sensitivity.

In color psychology, pink is a sign of hope. It is a positive color inspiring warm and comforting feelings, a sense that everything will be okay.

Pink calms and reassures our emotional energies, alleviating feelings of anger, aggression, resentment, abandonment and neglect. Studies have confirmed that exposure to large amounts of pink can have a calming effect on the nerves and create physical weakness in people. Violent and aggressive prisoners have been successfully calmed by placing them in a pink room for a specified amount of time. Exposure for too long can have the opposite effect.

The color pink puts people in touch with the nurturing side of themselves, through either the need to receive or the need to give, nurturing and TLC (tender loving care!). Be aware of this if you have a friend who constantly wears pink as it may indicate a need for acceptance, support and unconditional love!

Pink is a non-threatening color seeking appreciation, respect and admiration. It doesn’t like to be taken for granted and just loves to hear the words ‘thank you’.

Pink can signify good health, being ‘in the pink’, and success as in ‘everything’s rosy’.

The color pink represents the sweetness and innocence of the child in all of us. It is the color of uncomplicated emotions, inexperience and naiveté. A constant and exclusive use of pink can often lead you to become immature, silly and girlish, abandoning your adult responsibilities.

Pink can also remind you of earlier childhood memories, associated with nurturing and comfort from your mother or a mother figure.

Pink, from a negative color meaning, indicate an overly emotional and overly cautious nature.
If your favorite color is pink, it will reflect in your personality! WOW!!! THIS DEFINES MARILYN ANONA #‎poshmarilyn‬.

MARILYN ANONA writes: Its much better to contribute something to the world than to die with your gift because you are scared of the SPECTATORS.

In life, there are three groups of people… And I must tell you that all three are relevant. The first group are those ones who play active roles to ensure that life is worth living. The second group are those who win awards and they usually emerge from this first group. The third group of people are those who just sit and watch. Now! If the 1st group are not there, the second will never be there even the third group. The first group makes the second and third group exist. But listen, if the third group is missing, then the activities of the first group will be meaningless. The third group shows that what the first group is doing is worth their time, money and energy. I am talking about the third group today. They are the spectators, they are usually the ones who applaud you, the critics, the judges and the analysts. They sit and watch, few of them applaud! most times, they are just looking for errors or ways to pull down the folks who belong to the first and the second groups. If you belong to the first and second group, you have employed the SPECTATOR ( first group) and they are the most hard-working type of employees. They are so devoted and they work free of charge and put in extra time into their jobs. Everyone in the first and second group have to be very mindful of the folks in this third group. They can make or destroy you. But most times, the biggest critic in your life usually lives between your ears and your mind. Its a lot easier to complain about the SPECTATORS but having the courage to move past your own vulnerability and uncertainty is usually the biggest obstacle you will encounter on the way to achieving your goals. When I started writing, it wasn’t just the hurtful comments from readers that prevented me from getting started. It was my own fears about what they would think about my writings. We have to face this internal fear and criticism that prevent us from getting started. It can take a lifetime to learn that just because people criticize you doesn’t mean they really care about your choice to do something different. Usually, the haters simply criticize and move on. And that means that you can safely ignore them and continue doing your thing. But that is easier said than done because we all like to be validated. Some people like it more than others, but everyone wants to be respected and appreciated to some extent. I personally do. I know that whenever I choose to share my work with the world, I wonder about what my friends will think, what my family will think, and how the people around me will see me because of that choice. Will this help my image and reputation? Should this be coming from a role model? Especially as regards writing, I usually had an internal struggle even though I know I am such a good writer, I felt the youths would see my writings as too serious or old fashioned as we live in a society that is gossip and entertainment crazy. But I believed in myself and I knew that I wanted to contribute something to the world around me and I encouraged my self with this saying “You can either be judged because you created something or ignored because you left your greatness inside of you.” At the end, I concluded that its much better to contribute something to the world than to die with your gift because you are scared of the SPECTATORS. Now, before I continue with the SPECTATORS and how to deal with them… Let me first tell you that no matter what you do in life, some people are going to criticize or judge you. If you don’t have them, it means you have not started living. For one reason or another, someone will find a reason to project their insecurity, their negativity, and their fears onto you and your life, and you will have to deal with it. So don’t be bewildered when you encounter such.

With this in your mind, let’s now talk about the SPECTATORS (critics and judges)… The voice of the critic is usually louder and clearer than the voice of the ones who applaud you. I am specific about the critics, analysts and judges because they are the ones we have issues with. Most of us hold on to negative criticisms and it has an adverse effect on us. We remember negative emotions more vividly too than positive emotions because somehow bad seems stronger than good. There are sure ways to get over criticisms when they come but let me share one of the criticisms I have received with you. A certain day, I wrote a post on my FACEBOOK wall, it was a message to us all to quit being greedy and promiscuous and be content with our husbands or partners. That if you are already married, and your spouse has financial problems, you two should complement each other. Someone dropped a comment saying! “Such advise should not be coming from a single girl, you are not qualified” I was shocked and sad! I mean, I thought to myself that every sane human will be happy reading such positive words… But no! Someone was out there to throw hateful words, “laughs out loud” All that hate for someone who writes about the society, the youths and our value system. What if I wrote about something controversial? THIS IS THE MESSAGE… No matter what you do, someone must find faults, some people are just born that way! *similes* How do you move above them, how do you ignore them??? Well, I advise you to: 1. Focus on where you are headed and not on people who serve as road blocks. Focus on the road and not the wall. The negative folks, the critics and judges (SPECTATORS) are the walls and you know what happens when you run into the wall, Injuries and pains! Don’t let the SPECTATORS distract you. Focus on the road, avoid the walls and road blocks… When someone dishes out a negative comment, use that as a signal to recommit to your work and to refocus on the road ahead of you. Some people are determined to take things personally and tear down the work of others. Your life is too short to worry about pleasing those people. 2. If you must respond to your critics and judges, respond graciously. Do not insult them back. Just be kind to them. 3. To deal with these analysts, critics and haters, be sure you are not one yourself. Don’t be the person who tears down someone else’s hard work. The world needs more people who contribute their gifts and share their work and ideas. Working up the courage to do that can be tough. Support the people who display that courage. 4. If you can ignore, that’s the best thing to do. Forget all those who are taunting and jeering… They are usually those who have nothing to offer. They occupy the cheapest seats. 5. Don’t ever stop what you are doing as long as you took the decision to do that and it makes you happy. No matter what business you do, you must have a critic, a judge or someone somewhere analyzing you. If you don’t, it means you have not started yet. Expect SPECTATORS to analyze, criticize and judge you. Only very few of them applaud especially at the stage when it seems like you are still struggling. Remain focused and passionate and shock them with success. BE ENLIGHTENED! BE INSPIRED!! BE MOTIVATED!!!

From today, I will discard my social mask, and live true to the promptings of my heart by Dr. Yomi Garnett.

JUST FOR TODAY, I will become like a child, all over again.
As a child, I was in unconscious awareness of my own gifts and talents.
As a child, I was prodigiously creative and uncommonly passionate.
As a child, my imagination transcended all boundaries, and my dreams acknowledged no limits.
As a child, I was full of innocent trust, both in others and in my own faith.
As a child, I ventured forth into the unknown without constraining inhibitions.
As a child, I gave full expression to my authentic essence, without fear of censure.
As a child, a light burned inside of me, and I did not attempt to conceal it.
As a child, I lived completely in the present moment, without a care in the world.
As a child, I savored each gift that came my way, reveling in the beauty of the castles I built in the sand, and the fantasies woven into the fairy tales I heard.
As a child, I saw a world filled with the abundance of limitless possibilities.
And then, disaster struck!
I embarked upon a roller coaster of self-betrayal by adopting the misguided belief patterns of other people.
I abandoned my innocent wisdom for rationalization, judgement and anxiety.
The sentiments of the tribe gradually became my holy grail as I totally lost the personal magnificence that was my own personal charm.
Admittedly, without discipline and wholesome boundaries, I would have gotten lost in a world in bewildering moral flux.
In the process of misplaced guidance, however, the vital permission to live true to myself was withdrawn, and I was not allowed to march to my own beat.
And now, I may go to my grave with the greatest song of my life remaining unsung.
That is why, today, I will become a child all over again.
For, it is only when I live my best, true and authentic life that the spark of individual brilliance that is mine, and mine alone, will burst forth to illuminate my world.
From today, I will discard my social mask, and live true to the promptings of my heart.
I will not live the life of another in order to satisfy the tribal demand.
For, if I do not give full expression to my true self and my own truth, I will lose the voice that gives expression to my true self to the world.
And, if I lose this self-expression, I will lose my personal freedom.
And so will I wither away an unsung hero in a world in need of the authentic hero.
Today, I will become a child all over again.
And,with this glorious rebirth shall I discard the fear of being different, and not fitting into the ways of the tribe.
And, I will resolutely be wary of what most people think, and what most people do.
For, is it not an absolute truism that most people tend to think like most other people?
Put differently, is it not true that most people tend to repeat what other people have done or said?
Tragically, their ideas are not theirs, and are, rather, worn out cliches believed by the vast majority.
Unfortunately, the vast majority are not making a huge success of the project called life.
And, that is why I insist on being an original, treading where others are loathe to tread.
And so shall I weave a courageous path to my own personal excellence.
I will veer away from the tribal tendency to insist that my child must be a doctor or a lawyer, because of my fear of not conforming to society’s standards of success.
Today, I will join my child in becoming the poet that he passionately wants to be, by creating the right and safe environment for his best self to grow.
For, what is success if not simply living life in consistence with one own’s truth, and on one own’s terms?
Today, I come into a realization that success is being true to the values that resonate to the best within me, without prejudice to societal tentacles.
For me, success will be to live my life to the end of creating what is most important to me, and not what is important to anyone else.
Today, I will celebrate my rebirth by doing my own thing and letting others do theirs.

ACTION EXERCISE

Today, affirm to yourself:
“I will dream my own life, and live my own dream.”

“JUST FOR TODAY – Daily Inspirational Thoughts And Meditations.”
Dr Yomi Garnett
Talk Show Host: Dream The Life; Live The Dream.
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Honesty, Prof Dora Nkem Akunyili… A valid example!

Can you try and be honest at least once in your life??? Most of us clamour for change! Positive change! Yet we do things that help spoil the society the more. But we pretend not to know the impact on the society… We think its just when we are in authority or occupy political positions that such acts are called corruption. Honesty goes a long way! Even if it doesn’t pay you at the moment, it pays eventually. My role model (of blessed memory) rose to great heights because of HONESTY. Most Nigerians would not have done what she did… Many would have called her jew woman, holy holy, you too do and all… But that singular act made her stand out! She returned that money when the surgery was not done again. It took her to great places because what she did is something so rare in the Nigeria we live in. How many of us can do that! Now HONESTY has nothing to do with ethnicity or group… I have heard many say that the IGBO man isn’t honest but prof Dora is Igbo. My message is simple, let’s all imbibe honesty in all we do… Relationships o, work, church, business o… everything and anything at all. #‎poshmarilyn‬

MARILYN ANONA writes: There is no road that is 100% smooth and if scaling through a hurdle makes you give up on stuff it means you are mapped out for failure.

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I got a call on Friday evening from someone who had watched my programme on Television. She said “thank you so much dear, your show on Television this evening has given me hope”… She went on to send a text message! She has the HIV infection and was almost giving up on life. But she said the my talk that day on Television which was titled “DON’T GIVE UP” made her feel a lot better. I took out a little time to counsel her and I told her that there is absolutely no reason to give up on life!

Why do you want to just give up like that? What is it that you are going through that makes you think its the end of the world for you? There is nothing new under the sun. What you are passing through, someone has passed through… It may be sickness, it may be a heart break, it may be divorce or separation, it may be the death of a spouse or a loved one, it may be an accident! What ever it is, I still say, you should not give up.
Do you know what kills people most times? Its not the situation that made them what to give up. What kills is giving up! The moment you decide its over, it starts affecting your body. Yes! That is because the mind and body are connected. The mind carries the body.

It surprises me when someone is willing to just give up on life. People committing suicide on daily basis. And losing the will to live is very common these days… Yes! People decide or rather choose to stop living more often than you imagine. Let us face reality! Life must throw stones at you… Its your choice to either dodge the stone or dust off your skin, treat a bruise if you got one after the stone hits you and then move on more determined to make it. Life can never be smooth and sweet all the way, never! As long as you live, you will always find yourself pushing harder and harder. And if your life appears to be easier as you age, it means the zeal with which you follow things have reduced not necessarily that life got easier. We all must understand life and live it no matter what comes our way.

My role model Prof. Dora Akunyili (of blessed memory) is an apt example of someone who never gave up. She was strong even on her sick bay. She refused to just give up even when the ailment that eventually took her life was so intense. Looking so fragile she made it to the national conference to lend her voice. And when she was asked to sit and talk, she vehemently refused! She said “I can stand”… The mind was so alive and she spoke with great strength even though her body was weak… She never gave up to the last minute, so why should you give up? Don’t even try to give up and here are few reasons why you must never give up:

1. SOMEONE WHO GIVES UP MAY NEVER SUCCEED: If you are in the habit of always giving up, abandoning a project etc because it didn’t work after you put in some efforts I am afraid, your chances of making it in life is so slim. This is because, there is no road that is 100% smooth and if scaling through a hurdle makes you give up on stuff it means you are mapped out for failure… I know you don’t want to be a failure *smiles* so please do not give up! Maybe, if you had taken the next step you would hit that break through but you gave up. How sad!!! Please don’t give up.

2. THERE IS ALWAYS THAT SOMEONE WHO CAN HELP YOU OUT OF THAT SITUATION: The problem with us most times is that, we are often too shy to share our problems. We prefer to die with them. A problem shared is half solved. Share that issue with someone! It may not be your friend. You can talk to a counsellor, a pastor or a total stranger but please talk to someone. You will be amazed how that “huge” issue that almost made you give up will be greatly reduced and solved. Please do not give up!!!

3. YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT AN INTERESTING LIFE COMES WITH HURDLES: life is not a bed of roses. And even if it were, roses have thorns still. You should expect to have problems in life and scaling through them successfully is what makes you. Life would have been so boring if everything we need just falls from the sky once we mention them. Without experiencing these little challenges, life will not be worth living. And experiencing them makes you appreciate success when it eventually comes. Do not ever think of giving up! One day, you will look back and smile…

4. YOU MUST KNOW THAT SOME OF THOSE PROBLEM THAT MAKES YOU WANT TO GIVE UP, MAKES YOU DISCOVER YOURSELF AND YOUR LIFE PURPOSE: The real you is inside of you and sometimes, these life challenges make you discover you and the reason why you were created. They make you understand the things that are of great value to you. So do not give up! At the end of the day, you will be glad you didn’t.

5. EVERY PROBLEM HAS A SOLUTION: I know you are already saying to yourself that I am consoling you. But Friend, its the truth. There is no problem without a solution. It may not be the solution you want but it is still a solution. Please do not give up.

These are just very few reasons why you must never give up. But why should a strong person like you think of giving up? Giving up is for the weak and those who lack ambition. There is so much to look forward to. There is so much to achieve. It may not be so beautiful now but all efforts will definitely pay in the end. When you think all hope is lost, there is still hope. Be optimistic, be courageous. I hope that I spoke to someone today. I love you all #poshmarilyn.
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MARILYN ANONA writes: An average human being prefers to be distracted and therefore forgets that a quiet room to one’s self is very important in the quest for self discovery.

I love solitude, I enjoy my own company and I am at my best when I am alone. But most times when I say this, people look at me like I am some kind of alien. An average human being prefers to be distracted and therefore forgets that a quiet room to one’s self is very important in the quest for self discovery and it also enhances creativity. Great ideas are very expensive to come by and they usually come when we devote reasonable space to ourselves alone. Most of my best thoughts and ideas if not all came during times of solitude. Times spent either having a picnic alone or in my room alone. I tell you, some “alone time” is very important. If you are always focused on people, being around people and other external factors, then you are denying yourself of self discovery and personal growth. Reasons why Solitude is very good: ***** We are more creative when we are alone. Do you need inspiration? Stay away from people for a while. You will be amazed at what you will come out with. ***** Solitude can help you heal what pains you. Sometimes, the best therapy is “being alone”. That’s all the magic you need. So when you are facing a really bad time, take out sometime and be with you. Listen to your inner mind and search your soul. The answers you need may just be within you. ***** Solitude makes us see things more clearly. An average human is fond of pulling him or herself outside, thereby ignoring or not seeing what is inside. Solitude makes you see what is inside and in turn makes you see clearly. ***** Solitude allows your brain to rest. In this ever busy world, taking time out makes you relaxed. It allos your mind detach from all the noise, hustle and bustle outside. ***** Solitude can be a time for self-discovery. Solitude is your chance to learn something about yourself. These are just some of the things SOLITUDE helps you achieve. But you know what, solitude is so uncomfortable for many people because they have learned to derive their self-esteem from activities initiated by other people. Therefore, their effort is to satisfy themselves by satisfying others. If you have to be dependent on others to go on in life, it means your joy and inspiration will always be limited and unsteady… Some people will not always be there. Events will always happen to demoralize you. Yes, its good to socialize don’t misunderstand me or quote me wrong, but try to always make out time for yourself. Enjoy some alone time with you. Enjoy your own company! That may be all the therapy you need. That may be the best way to come up with that great idea that will turn your life and the world around. BE ENLIGHTENED! BE INSPIRED!! BE MOTIVATED!!! Call in for your Counselling, Coaching and Training on 08056293964. Call us too for Public Speaking on 08056293964. Follow on Twitter @poshmarilyn.