But neither of these stories are true. They do have colleagues, and have friends, but are alone most of the time and their friends are often busy. This means that they could spend hours at work alone during the day, and then head back to their flat to be alone for the evening or even for an entire weekend, “laughs out loud”.
Sometimes the feeling of loneliness overwhelms us even when we are in the company of people. Yes! You can be with a lot of people and still feel very lonely. You can be lonely in a crowd. Sometimes we feel content with being lonely. That’s surprising right? Everyone has suffered loneliness though the degree differs. When you are feeling lonely, it is because something has triggered a memory of that feeling, not because you are in fact, isolated and alone. The brain is designed to pay attention to pain and danger, and that includes painful scary feelings; therefore loneliness get our attention. You might react by withdrawing into yourself, your thoughts, and your lonely feelings and this is not helpful. At its best, anticipation of loneliness might motivate us to reach out and cultivate friendships, which is the healthiest thing to do if you are sad and alone. When you are a child, and your sadness causes you to cry, you may evoke a comforting response from others. If you are an adult, not so much. But then living a lie is not a good thing. How then do we cope with loneliness? Your opinions are very much needed. Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!