MARILYN ANONA writes: On the other hand, just as it’s disgusting for the “successful” to look down on others, it’s equally disdainful for the “unsuccessful” to resent those who have worked hard and have rightfully earned their success.

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There is this man I love so much. Most of us love him too but I think I am his greatest fan at least in Nigeria. He is a fellow with such a magnetic personality. He is so confident, natural and down to earth. He is the best in what he does and has so many awards that sometimes I wonder if he knows the number of awards he has gotten. During my NYSC days at Calabar, he had a show and I was marvelled at his HUMILITY. He tried to take photos with most of his fans that I was even afraid for him because to me it was a cumbersome task. He is a very humble man and that has endeared so many to him and I can say that is the reason behind his huge SUCCESS. I won’t mention his name. Maybe you should guess! I believe that the first test of a truly great person depends on how humble he or she is. Great people have a curious feeling that the greatness is not in them, but through them.  And they see something equally great in every other person making them humble. Humility is the hardest virtue to achieve. But in humility lies true greatness and wisdom. But most people do not know what HUMILITY really is. Humility and poverty are not synonymous. Being a poor man doesn’t make you a humble man. Most people mistake the two. In fact, you get to know a truly humble person when he or she is wealthy, in position of power and has everything going well for him or her.
Humility does not mean false modesty.  Humility does not mean taking a back seat.
When you take a back seat consciously and deliberately in order to show others how humble you are, you are not being humble at all.
False humility is what slaves show to their masters.  Slaves know that if they do not
obey their masters blindly, if they do not show this kind of outer humility, the master will punish them.
Genuine humility is something entirely different. It means giving joy to others. We want joy, but how do we get joy? We get joy from self-giving, not by possessing or by showing our own supremacy. When we allow others to get joy, then we feel that our joy is more complete.  By making others feel that they are either equally important or more important, we show genuine humility.
But most importantly, don’t mistake strong will, firmness and confidence as lack of humility. They are different things entirely. Being humble doesn’t mean we should not be firm or strong willed. It doesn’t mean we should not be confident. We should all try to be humble or stay humble in all we do or no matter what height we attain. Humility is most determined after success. Most people start humble but end up very proud and arrogant because of the success they have achieved. This should not be so. Humility plays a major role in our quest for success. Yes! That is because when you are humble, people go out of their way to help you. They listen to you. For those who think they have arrived, don’t let success get into your head. I watch some people and I just laugh. I say to myself “I just wonder how Dangote treats the people around him if this woman in this little office feels she is just too much”. When you have it at the back of your mind that success is temporary, that its a journey, not a destination you will be humble. Share your success. You may be successful, but there is a good chance others helped you along the way. Find creative ways to share the credit and pull people up the ladder of success along with you. Don’t let pride ruin that process. When you think of yourself as GOD himself, try to think back. I learnt Ojukwu’s father was one time richest man in Africa. Today, the richest man in Africa is Dangote. What does this tell you? Treat everyone with dignity and respect. Your present position isn’t static. Change is constant. Bragging is very ugly. Its a sign of pride! There is a difference between excitement and bragging. We know you are happy about your new car, but others may just be striving to at least afford meals, be sensitive! Its an element of humility. Remember what John Wooden said, “Talent is God given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful.”. Most of us come from humble beginnings. We make something of ourselves through GOD’s grace, pursuit of knowledge, integrity, hard work, and a bit of good fortune. Yes, people have every right to be proud of the success that they have earned. But that doesn’t give them the right to be rude or disrespectful to others.
Some people get very happy by boasting about their accomplishments or showing off their possessions. They have convinced themselves that they are better than others. The truth is, some folks let success go to their head, and they gain a weird satisfaction from pushing people around. That’s wrong. On the other hand, just as it’s disgusting for the “successful” to look down on others, it’s equally disdainful for the “unsuccessful” to resent those who have worked hard and have rightfully earned their success. Bottomline is, don’t let success get to your head, be humble! Humility is a sign of strength, not weakness. Humble people possess an inner peace. They are modest about their achievements, grounded in their values, and they have nothing to prove to others. They are down to earth, comfortable in their own skin, and quietly proud. Humble people are the most authentic people on earth. Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!

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10 thoughts on “MARILYN ANONA writes: On the other hand, just as it’s disgusting for the “successful” to look down on others, it’s equally disdainful for the “unsuccessful” to resent those who have worked hard and have rightfully earned their success.

  1. “Humility is not thinking less of yourself;It is thinking of yourself less. Humility is thinking more of others.”-Rick Warren.Yes,people don’t understand the meaning of humility.Especially shallow people.Lovely Ms.Posh is on it again.Another compelling article.

  2. Great post! Success is indeed a journey and not a destination and people should never take their present status as a constant. Its always a good look when u see someone who is wealthy and genuinely humble. My personal mantra “lift as u climb” is to me the best way to exhibit humility. Well done PoshMarilyn, I’m thoroughly enlightened by today’s post.

  3. Oh how I wish so many people would read this! Nigerians should be among the most pompous people on earth. Always quick to show off @ any given opportunity, unnecessarily loud, making your presence known, I call it ‘false bravado’! I so hate such attitude! People with such arrogance and pomposity most times have low self esteem, their wealth boosts their ego…its not a bad thing to enjoy your good fortunes, but you musnt rub it in on others or use it to oppress…”God gives grace to the humble and resists the proud”

    No matter how rich you think you are, there’s someone richer than you…your salary, monetary value of your assets…is someone else’s tithe so stay humble! Humility is a great virtue and only few posses it.

    • Wonderful contribution Uju. Laughing out loud at Nigerians being the most pompous! Could be very true. Most times, you see some people who maybe travelled to Dubai or paris and then take photos of themselves with shopping bags (chanel, LV etc) I keep wondering the rationale behind that act. In the just concluded AMVCA, a nollywood actress had to snap the pair of shoes she wore to the event. The shoes still had the price tag. I couldn’t help laughing. Showoff! Unnecessaryone at that. Most times, that’s all they have to offer. Thanks dear. GOD bless you.

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