Humility does not mean false modesty. Humility does not mean taking a back seat.
When you take a back seat consciously and deliberately in order to show others how humble you are, you are not being humble at all.
False humility is what slaves show to their masters. Slaves know that if they do not
obey their masters blindly, if they do not show this kind of outer humility, the master will punish them.
Genuine humility is something entirely different. It means giving joy to others. We want joy, but how do we get joy? We get joy from self-giving, not by possessing or by showing our own supremacy. When we allow others to get joy, then we feel that our joy is more complete. By making others feel that they are either equally important or more important, we show genuine humility.
But most importantly, don’t mistake strong will, firmness and confidence as lack of humility. They are different things entirely. Being humble doesn’t mean we should not be firm or strong willed. It doesn’t mean we should not be confident. We should all try to be humble or stay humble in all we do or no matter what height we attain. Humility is most determined after success. Most people start humble but end up very proud and arrogant because of the success they have achieved. This should not be so. Humility plays a major role in our quest for success. Yes! That is because when you are humble, people go out of their way to help you. They listen to you. For those who think they have arrived, don’t let success get into your head. I watch some people and I just laugh. I say to myself “I just wonder how Dangote treats the people around him if this woman in this little office feels she is just too much”. When you have it at the back of your mind that success is temporary, that its a journey, not a destination you will be humble. Share your success. You may be successful, but there is a good chance others helped you along the way. Find creative ways to share the credit and pull people up the ladder of success along with you. Don’t let pride ruin that process. When you think of yourself as GOD himself, try to think back. I learnt Ojukwu’s father was one time richest man in Africa. Today, the richest man in Africa is Dangote. What does this tell you? Treat everyone with dignity and respect. Your present position isn’t static. Change is constant. Bragging is very ugly. Its a sign of pride! There is a difference between excitement and bragging. We know you are happy about your new car, but others may just be striving to at least afford meals, be sensitive! Its an element of humility. Remember what John Wooden said, “Talent is God given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful.”. Most of us come from humble beginnings. We make something of ourselves through GOD’s grace, pursuit of knowledge, integrity, hard work, and a bit of good fortune. Yes, people have every right to be proud of the success that they have earned. But that doesn’t give them the right to be rude or disrespectful to others.
Some people get very happy by boasting about their accomplishments or showing off their possessions. They have convinced themselves that they are better than others. The truth is, some folks let success go to their head, and they gain a weird satisfaction from pushing people around. That’s wrong. On the other hand, just as it’s disgusting for the “successful” to look down on others, it’s equally disdainful for the “unsuccessful” to resent those who have worked hard and have rightfully earned their success. Bottomline is, don’t let success get to your head, be humble! Humility is a sign of strength, not weakness. Humble people possess an inner peace. They are modest about their achievements, grounded in their values, and they have nothing to prove to others. They are down to earth, comfortable in their own skin, and quietly proud. Humble people are the most authentic people on earth. Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!