MARILYN ANONA writes:  Don’t be afraid of looking at yourself in the mirror because you are afraid of what you might see.

Personally, I have been in a situation where I spoke so harshly to someone and hurt their feeling and started regretting my outburst almost immediately I said those words. Regret is one of the most difficult things to deal with in life. But the truth is, no matter how huge the regret or its effect is, we eventually regard it as an experience and move on with our lives. There are many things or events that make us regret. It could be making the wrong choices. For example, rushing into something because you think it is trending and everyone is doing it without taking time to know if its the right field or area to go into. You rush in, waste your time and effort and rush out regretting. It could be the chances you didn’t take. It could even be the relationships you were afraid to nurture or the decisions you waited too long to make,thereby allowing a vital opportunity elude you. It could also be the things you didn’t even try when you had the chance to try them or those important words you left unspoken and deeds you left undone. There are so many reasons why we often regret. No matter the number of times you have been faced with regrets over things you should have done or said, its not too late to plan your life and live a life free of regrets. Its not too late because you are still alive so you have the opportunity to make the right decisions and on time too. You have the opportunity to correct some of those errors of the past. The greatest challenge about life is having the courage to start. And how you start is very important. Even the Bible said that “if the foundation is wrong,there is nothing the righteous can do”. If you don’t start, how will you end? The feeling you get from taking the first step is far better than the feeling you get from sitting around thinking about it.  Get up and get moving. Put those ideas into action! Having ideas are not enough…we must act to avoid regrets!!! Even if you don’t feel 100% prepared right now, your worst try will always be 100% more effective than the person who never did.  It is so easy to get caught up in planning and perfecting that before you know it, you have made taking the first step a bigger deal than it is.  Sometimes you just have to go ahead and take things as they come, one step at a time. So give up the excuses and begin now. Tomorrow you will be happy you started today. I keep telling people to leave their comfort zone. When I talk most times, they don’t understand because they think I have it all smooth for me. I just laugh within me. My dear, great men left their comfort zone to be able to discover who they are. Don’t be afraid of trying because you are afraid of failing. Don’t be afraid of loving because you are afraid of losing love. Don’t be afraid of speaking the truth because you are afraid of what others will think. Don’t be afraid of looking at yourself in the mirror because you are afraid of what you might see. Even if you fail, don’t be discouraged. Don’t allow anything deter you. As you try and try again, your inner strength will unfold and you will become more confident. And with confidence, there is no place you cannot go and nothing you can’t acquire. Again, most of the things we seek for outside, are inside of us, that’s why we must focus first on self discovery and development. Most people who are afraid to love or nuture a relationship do not even love themselves and cannot take the risk of loving someone. Before making friends with others, you have to be your own friend.  Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy. The truth is, you can’t give what you lack. You have to focus on being the person that you want to be with. And its your responsibility. Everything starts with you. Optimism makes us to live a life devoid of regrets because we are constantly looking on the brighter side. Even when something goes wrong, we don’t dwell too long on it. We just see the light at the end of the tunnel. It is not what you look at in life that matters; it is what you choose to see.  The biggest wall you must climb is the one you have built in your mind.  If you don’t control the way you see things, then it will control you.
Negative feelings are like weeds… if you don’t fully extract their roots, they will keep coming back. So take control of your attitude. Look at what’s right.  Believe in yourself.  Ignore those who try to discourage you. Avoid negative people, places, things, and habits. Don’t give up, and don’t give in to consuming the garbage these negative sources are trying to feed you. Of course, there will always be problems and challenges, but there are always people willing to transform those problems and challenges into great opportunities.  Those who have the courage, commitment and discipline to do so, create a better life for everyone.  Be one of these people.  Focus on positive solutions and work your way eagerly toward a brighter future. Its unfortunate that most people neglect the little things in life. Those little things are actually the most important things. Not spending time with your loved ones is one of the major reason why people end up regretting. So don’t get so caught up in the rat race, to the point where you are too stressed and exhausted to enjoy your closest relationships.  As we get older, fun with friends and family are most times underrated.  With all of our responsibilities, spending time “playing” with the people closest to us seems like an indulgence.  It shouldn’t be. Remember, we don’t live forever.  You must make an effort to appreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares for you, because you will never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you.  Spend lots of quality time with the people you love. Someday you will either regret not doing so, or you will say, “I’m glad I did. Most people also spend a lot of time dwelling in the past. Refusing to move on after a broken relationship or a failed career, forgetting that the end is better than the beginning and that time waits for no man. Let go of the past! Sometimes things won’t work out like you plan.  Life has other things in mind.  You need to let these things go.  Learn what you can and move along.  You can’t have a great day today if you’re still thinking and worrying about yesterday.  Whatever could have been or should have been, doesn’t matter.  This moment is here and now for you to live. It’s okay to not have all the answers yet.  In fact, you’ll never have ALL the answers.  Sometimes being strong and moving on are the only choices you have.  There are some things in life that you may never completely get over.  The best you may be able to do is get through them slowly, and that’s perfectly okay.
Just continue the journey, focus on the present, do your best, and trust the process.  The struggle forward is worth the effort.  There’s still a lot of beauty left to be seen on the road ahead.
Abiding by the things you have read will assist in keeping your life in order by th grace of GOD. Your future depends on what you do right now. Challenge yourself to be who you know you are capable of being.  Challenge yourself to follow through, to live what you preach, to walk your talk. Don’t worry about how slowly you feel you are heading towards your goals, or how many hurdles you find.  As long as you keep moving, you are still cruising far ahead of everyone who is too afraid to even try. Wishing you all a wonderful wednesday. Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!



  1. I was nodding my head through the entire post. Valid points all through and a highly motivational post. PoshMarilyn God bless you.

  2. Nice one dear! You may not be able to change where you stared, but you can change where you will end. Your future isn’t determined by your past. I don’t buy things because it’s vogue. Though I have made mistakes in the past, but not anymore.

  3. This a very nice article… And its true that courage is the solution nd cure to fear.. Bcos av also found my self in such situation I was asked 2 lead a house… Ohh wow it wasn’t a experience..bcos I was jus wondering. How I will go nd stammer even when I naturall don’t… So I think with courage and our thrust in God will can be able to surpass all fear and also do what we use to think is almost impossible for us to do

  4. Nice one Posh! You haven’t written bellow expectation. Every line is indeed laced with thought provoking admonitions. Without reservatons, I recommend it to all and commend you for your efforts in making our world a better place through your writings.

    • Thanks so much Emeka. Your contribution has really motivated me to do more. I ask for more grace and above all favour to be able to do what I really want to do which is TV. GOD bless you.

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