At the office yesterday, a certain guy came to my desk and we got talking. Along the line, he asked a question. He asked if I take my partner’s calls especially in his absence, I told him that I do not live with my partner but it depends on the situation, that sometimes the phone will ring so many times when I am around and he is not there to take it and out of curiosity or care I would pick and relay the message to him when he comes back. He complained that his partner is in the habit of taking all the numbers of ladies in his cell without his knowledge and calling to insult them without minding or thinking about his relationship with those women. He said she misbehaves a lot when they go out and would accuse him of looking at another woman. He ended the whole gist with; in fact, I want to quit! I am tired!! I calmed him down and asked him a few questions because I wanted to find out if she had reasons for behaving that way and he said yes! “She once saw a love text from a lady on my cell”. I urged him to take it easy and constantly reassure his partner that she is the one for him in any way he can. Because I know she is suffering from “fear” and “lack of trust”. In romantic relationships, jealousy often involves other people. There is this fear that our partner will leave us for someone that he or she finds more attractive, more intelligent, richer or someone more phenomenal. It is this insecurity and lack of confidence within us that makes us fearful and leads to an unbelievable level of jealousy.
The main problem is that the things that this jealousy leads us to do and the way it leads us to act, in our effort to keep our relationship, are the very behaviours and actions that end the relationship. The people that we are with will feel that they are being controlled, manipulated, and unjustly persecuted. Jealousy doesn’t feel good to you and even your partner. Whether they have done anything that has contributed to your insecurity or not, they are the ones that are bearing the brunt of it.
Whatever a person needs to do to get rid of the insecurity that is destroying them, it is important that they do this in order to find true happiness in relationships with other people. Insecurity gives birth to untold fear, fear in turn gives birth to jealousy, and jealousy finally gives birth to wobbly and unhealthy relationships.
Jealousy is very terrible emotion to have to deal with, especially when it is in its extreme and experienced on a regular basis. It is a killer of relationships. How and what should be done to curb or reduce JEALOUSY in romantic relationships? Your opinions are needed… Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!