Archive | December 2013

MARILYN ANONA writes: our main CHRISTmas tradition is travelling to our various hometowns to celebrate with our relatives. Afterall, east west, HOME IS THE BEST!

NIGERIAN FATHER CHRISTMAS

NIGERIAN FATHER CHRISTMAS

Its that time of the year again. CHRISTMAS is finally here. A season that everyone looks forward to right from January. Its meant to be a celebration for the CHRISTIANS but it is more of a global celebration because of the time its being celebrated. CHRISTMAS is celebrated on every 25th of December in most part of the world and naturally, being the end of the year, even non CHRISTIANS participate in the celebration, consciously or unconsciously. CHRISTMAS is meant to be the celebration of the birth of our LORD, JESUS CHRIST. But most people hardly remember that because like I earlier said, it marks the end of another hectic year of hustling and bustling. In Nigeria, CHRISTMAS is basically about catching up and reuniting with family and friends who we have not seen in a long time. Ironically, the CHRISTMAS holiday is the shortest holiday in Nigeria but our brains make us feel its long because of the excitement. That feeling of excitement makes us feel psychologically that a break of less than one week is up to a month.
NIGERIAN FATHER CHRISTMAS 2

NIGERIAN FATHER CHRISTMAS 2

During this period, people troop in and out of different markets shopping endlessly as if its the end of the world. The cost of most items increase. The traders call this “season”, hehe! If you visit a typical Nigerian market at this time example, Wuse market here in Abuja, Onitsha main market, Lagos market, sorry will be your name. The sort of stress you will pass through trying to buy what you need is indescribable. Growing up, I usually wondered why my mum buys our CHRISTMAS clothes like 3 weeks or 1month before the time. Now as an adult I understand better. Not just about the rush or the price hike, the worst is that during this period, you may not even be able to find what you need as almost every nice thing has been taken. So the best thing is to shop in advance for what you need to avoid being stranded. You don’t want to be in a mess because believe it or not, its a time to “SHOW OFF” by most folks that’s why those who aren’t buoyant enough don’t bother travelling. Abuja all of a sudden feels like a deserted land. Most people have travelled down especially the IGBOS who don’t joke with this season. So our main CHRISTMAS tradition is travelling to our various hometowns to celebrate with our relatives. Afterall, east west, HOME IS THE BEST! Yes, its very important we should all be with our loved ones at this season. We have been working hard from January to November. Its only fair we spare a few days for our family and friends. Last year, I almost didn’t travel because of work. I travelled at the peak of the rush and got to Anambra state almost at mid night but I was very glad I did. If I had not gone for CHRISTMAS, I would not have seen my mum and would not have had those last memories of her. Continue to rest in peace mum. It hurts that we won’t be spending CHRISTMAS with you again. But I will try to fill in the gap by cooking all those delicious meals you usually cook for Dad and my siblings. I know we all are ready for the celebration. Some have travelled and some are yet to travel. I want to wish you a very BEAUTIFUL CHRISTMAS. Its going to be a joyful one for all of us in JESUS name. Finally, I want you to tell us how and where you will be spending your CHRISTMAS holidays. Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!

posh pearls 2013

As part of the ways to wrap up this great year 2013, we bring to you POSH PEARLS. These are faces of women we wish to delight you with. The list will be ENDLESS if we decide to name all the pearls we have. So we came up with these names.

1.

OGOCHUKWU MADUEWESI

OGOCHUKWU MADUEWESI

OGOCHUKWU MADUEWESI is the founder of the VITILIGO AWARENESS AND AWARENESS FOUNDATION (VITSAF). Visit http://www.vitsaf.org. She is indeed a pearl.

2.

AGBANI DAREGO

AGBANI DAREGO

Of course we all know AGBANI DAREGO.

3.

OLUCHI ONWEGBA

OLUCHI ONWEGBA

OLUCHI ONWEGBA is a Nigerian model who has gone round the world and has scaled through all hurdles. She is a world class model. She won the “FACE OF AFRICA” contest when she was 17.

4.

FUNMI IYANDA

FUNMI IYANDA

FUNMI IYANDA is an award winning broadcaster, blogger and journalist. She is greatly admired.

5.

DEOLA SAGOE

DEOLA SAGOE

DEOLA SAGOE is one of the hottest fashion designer in Nigeria. Of course you don’t need to be told she is a posh pearl.

6.

EKU EDWOR

EKU EDWOR

Media personality EKU EDEWOR is no doubt a stunner. She is a true definition of both beauty and brain.

7.

TIWA SAVAGE

TIWA SAVAGE

Hehe! you must be a joker to think she wont be on this list. TIWA SAVAGE is very good in what she does and to me she is the best female musician in Nigeria.

8.

GENEVIEVE NNAJI

GENEVIEVE NNAJI

Does GENEVIEVE NNAJI need any introduction?

9.

INI EDO

INI EDO

INI EDO is a pearl anytime, anyday. Thumbs up dear.

10.

MERCY JOHNSON

MERCY JOHNSON

MERCY JOHNSON is an exceptional woman. She is not just intelligent and beautiful, she exudes too much confidence. We love you. More power to your elbow SEXY Mrs Okojie.

11.

OMOTOLA JALADE

OMOTOLA JALADE

Every woman in the entertainment industry should emulate this drop dead gorgeous beauty. She isnt just married, her marriage is so in tact and her career isn’t suffering. OMOSEXY keep it up.

12.

CHIMAMANDA NGOZI ADICHIE

CHIMAMANDA NGOZI ADICHIE

Here is a woman we will always be proud of. A genius. An exceptional woman who discovered her purpose in life and followed it even when everyone thought she was stupid. She is one of my role models. Keep it up CHIMAMANDA ADICHIE.

MERRY CHRISTMAS YOU ALL……….
BE ENLIGHTENED! BE INSPIRED!! BE MOTIVATED!!!

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THIS PICTURE?

BREAD

BREAD


Bread is loved and eaten by almost all NIGERIANS. personally, I am not a huge fan of bread as i can go for days or even weeks without remembering or eating bread but when I see good bread such as the ones baked by “NEXT CASH AND CARRY” Abuja, I will eat to the point of overfeeding.
I have always been scared of most of these bread sold on the road especially those ones without labels. Most times, when I say i don’t eat them, my friends will say I form a lot. They simply do not understand.
In NIGERIA, buying bread is almost a tradition for anyone who has gone on a journey or trip. You hear people say “welcome! wey bread?” when the person returns. But I am one of the few people who will never buy a loaf of bread on the road. I even learnt that sometimes when these loaves of bread have stayed beyond their shelf life, some of these bread dealers go as far as cleaning the mucous on the bread with wet rags and repacking them again and unsuspecting and ignorant consumers buy and eat them exposing themselves to food poisoning. This is very unfair and the height of wickedness.
But my picture is obviously at the bakery. What do you think about the picture?
BE ENLIGHTENED! BE INSPIRED!! BE MOTIVATED!!!

MARILYN ANONA writes: Personally, I think promiscuity is an individual thing even though I know that Certain factors can influence or change people.

marilyn anona

marilyn anona

I keep wondering why female bank workers are perceived as very promiscuous and of easy virtue. My experience while I was working with a financial institution here in Abuja opened my eyes to a lot of things. When you go about your job, putting in all the professionalism you can. All the prospective clients (especially the men) see is a beautiful girl who he wants to woo and jump into bed with. Some of them go about this wooing in such a crude manner. And most times, I ended up depressed. One day, I put up a friend’s picture as my display picture on my blackberry messenger. A friend picked interest and asked who she is. I told him and the minute I mentioned she works with Diamond bank, he exclaimed “Ah, I am not interested!!! I was curious so I asked why he lost interest all of a sudden and he said ladies who work in banks are indirect prostitutes, sleeping around with every man all because of bank deposits. How sad! I mean, what a way to generalize and consider any woman who works with the bank as promiscuous… But then, I remembered a certain sex tape that was released last year. A certain woman, a top placed female bank worker having sexual intercourse with her junior staff in the office and I get asking for the reason behind such act. Personally, I think promiscuity is an individual thing even though I know that certain factors can influence or change people. But when you know who you are and values you live for or by, you won’t be tossed up and down. I have heard different stories about the high level of promiscuity in different industries and sectors. I have heard a lot about nurses and their sexcapades with their patients. I have heard a lot about actors sleeping around. I have also heard a lot about politicians and it goes on and on and on. Different stories from different industries. So my question today is, which industry has the highest level of promiscuity or sex scandals? Is it the banking industry? Is it the movie industry? Are the nurses more guilty? What of the politicians? I have read stories about our teachers too. So are teachers also guilty? What of the churches? What of the media sector? I need your opinions on this and I also want to hear from you the reason or reasons for promiscuity. Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!! Written by: Marilyn Anona.

MARILYN ANONA writes Mediocres in NOLLYWOOD dominate,we still have some good movies.

MUNA OBIEKWE

MUNA OBIEKWE

NOLLYWOOD which has celebrated about 20 years of its recognized existence, not only has thousands of movies to its credit, but has also been serving as one of the major employers of labour in Nigeria and an actual foundation for the finding and cultivation of talents in the Nigerian entertainment industry. NOLLYWOOD, is supposed to symbolize the rich cultural, artistic and ethical heritage of Nigeria,and indeed, Africa known to attach so much value to moral decency, awareness and integrity.
JIM IYKE

JIM IYKE

NOLLYWOOD is supposed to be the pride of Nigeria and Africa and a medium through which the country’s image is better designed and portrayed as a place with people of peace, love, unity, honesty and as a matter of fact, a place where morality reigns while obscenity is highly despised. But what seems to have become of Nollywood in recent times, truly leaves much to be desired in this regard.
RITA DOMINIC

RITA DOMINIC

Right now, NOLLYWOOD is a place where nudity and all manners of vices trend without a moral lesson at the end of the movie. The Censors Board and other regulatory bodies in the industry have to live up to expectations. They have to sit up and help reclaim our moral values from total collapse.
MERCY JOHNSON

MERCY JOHNSON

They say NOLLYWOOD is the third largest movie industry in the world. Yes! It may even be the largest, but what about the quality of the industry in terms of the movies produced and the actors? Acting should be a PRESTIGIOUS and CLASSY occupation but the reverse is the case in NOLLYWOOD, where the industry is considered to be for the empty skulls, mediocres and people lacking principles and values. NOLLYWOOD is now seen as a dumping ground for people who have spent years in various night clubs and hotels and finally decide to retire. It has become so bad such that when you see an irresponsible person, people will start suggesting he or she enters into nollywood. Its very painful. Acting and everything that work together to bring out a movie is and should be for the creative and very intelligent people.
DESMOND ELLIOT

DESMOND ELLIOT

Acting is a profession and a noble one at that. But the QUESTION is: does NOLLYWOOD depict creativity? When are we going to be able to make a movie that will be world standard? We can achieve it if we will stop cutting corners, trying at all costs to cut costs, thinking just about maximizing profit without thinking about quality. Doing the same story over and over again but with different titles. Making six movies in six days. Directors doing their jobs professionally and not seeing roles as a bait to lure girls to warm their beds. The problem starts from the story then to the audition where most directors give roles to people based on sentiments. You see some directors who give roles to ladies just because they have warmed his bed. He doesn’t care if they can interpret the roles. He doesn’t care if they really represent the role they are to play.
GENEVIEVE NNAJI

GENEVIEVE NNAJI

When will NOLLYWOOD get better? Everyone is a director, producer and script writer. Is this supposed to be so? I was discussing this with someone and I got a shocking revelation. He said in NOLLYWOOD most movies are half baked because people now sort of get promoted. He said a location manager can be promoted to a director without adequate training. Once you know the executive producer, you can become his director. That’s really pathetic! When are going to start using good cameras for our movies? A good camera does a lot. Even when the story is poor, we can just enjoy the clarity of the film. Please NOLLYWOOD should start using good cameras. Apart from using good cameras, the people who shoot these movies should be adequately trained on camera movement. And there should be proper editing too. I was watching one of the poorest movie NOLLYWOOD ever produced “ASO EBI GIRLS/ BRIDE PRICE” a lady sat down and her panties was showing.
BIMBO AKINTOLA

BIMBO AKINTOLA

When are we going to start getting the “make up” right? Imagine a 2013 movie I was watching last Saturday titled “THE GENERALS”, the camera was not just poor, the story was so shallow, then when someone was shot dead, the blood from her body was pure tomato paste. I mean we should be able to do better at this stage. When are we going to have a NOLLYWOOD that we can boast of? When are we going to realize that acting is serious business and for the intelligent and creative people not for every Tom, Dick and Harry. Even though the mediocres in NOLLYWOOD dominate,we still have some good movies. I was very impressed the day I watched “THE LAST FLIGHT TO ABUJA” it is a very good movie. Some other movies like “MR AND MRS”, “TANGO WITH ME”, “GIRLS’ COT, season2” and soon to be released “THE PATIENT”. I saw the trailer of this movie “THE PATIENT” and sincerely, i can’t wait for it to be released. “LEKKI WIVES” is also one soap opera I watched and I was greatly impressed. Some of those movies i mentioned are cinema standard, but most people wont want to go to the cinema to watch a Nollywood movie. They are scared it may not be worth the money and time and this has got to stop. NOLLYWOOD may be filled with mediocres and very untalented people who feel that all there is to acting is being unnecessarily controversial, nudity, bleaching, acquiring multiple tattoos and body piercing but there are still many actors in Nollywood that we are proud of. Actors like, Genevieve Nnaji, Ramsey Noah, Pete Edochie, Olu Jacobs, Mercy Johnson, Nkem Owoh, Ngozi Ezeonu, Rita Dominic, Nse Ikpe, Ini Edo, Desmond Elliot, Jim Iyke, Uche Odoputa, Omotola Jalade, Bimbo Akintola, Chioma Chukwuka, Adaora Ukoh, Funke Akindele, Muna Obiekwe, Stephanie Okereke, Bob Manuel Udokwu, Ifunanya Igwe, Eucharia Anunobi, Kate Henshaw, Jide Kosoko etc. Producers, Directors and the censors board, please come together and make NOLLYWOOD better. We love Nollywood but we want standard movies. Dear readers, i would love you to share your opinions and thoughts. Be Inspired! Be Enlightened!! Be Motivated!!!
By Marilyn Anona. @poshmarilyn

MARILYN ANONA writes Jealousy finally gives birth to wobbly and unhealthy relationships.

At the office yesterday, a certain guy came to my desk and we got talking. Along the line, he asked a question. He asked if I take my partner’s calls especially in his absence, I told him that I do not live with my partner but it depends on the situation, that sometimes the phone will ring so many times when I am around and he is not there to take it and out of curiosity or care I would pick and relay the message to him when he comes back. He complained that his partner is in the habit of taking all the numbers of ladies in his cell without his knowledge and calling to insult them without minding or thinking about his relationship with those women.

the height of jealousy

the height of jealousy

are you jealous?

are you jealous?

when a partner suspects

when a partner suspects

fear

fear

He said she misbehaves a lot when they go out and would accuse him of looking at another woman. He ended the whole gist with; in fact, I want to quit! I am tired!! I calmed him down and asked him a few questions because I wanted to find out if she had reasons for behaving that way and he said yes! “She once saw a love text from a lady on my cell”. I urged him to take it easy and constantly reassure his partner that she is the one for him in any way he can. Because I know she is suffering from “fear” and “lack of trust”. In romantic relationships, jealousy often involves other people. There is this fear that our partner will leave us for someone that he or she finds more attractive, more intelligent, richer or someone more phenomenal. It is this insecurity and lack of confidence within us that makes us fearful and leads to an unbelievable level of jealousy.

The main problem is that the things that this jealousy leads us to do and the way it leads us to act, in our effort to keep our relationship, are the very behaviours and actions that end the relationship. The people that we are with will feel that they are being controlled, manipulated, and unjustly persecuted. Jealousy doesn’t feel good to you and even your partner. Whether they have done anything that has contributed to your insecurity or not, they are the ones that are bearing the brunt of it.

Whatever a person needs to do to get rid of the insecurity that is destroying them, it is important that they do this in order to find true happiness in relationships with other people. Insecurity gives birth to untold fear, fear in turn gives birth to jealousy, and jealousy finally gives birth to wobbly and unhealthy relationships.

Jealousy is very terrible emotion to have to deal with, especially when it is in its extreme and experienced on a regular basis. It is a killer of relationships. How and what should be done to curb or reduce JEALOUSY in romantic relationships? Your opinions are needed… Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!

BEYONCE features CHIMAMANDA ADICHIE in her new album…

Adichie gave an inspiring feminist speech at the beginning of the track, before Beyonce sang.

Her words

BEYONCE FEATURES CHIMAMANDA

BEYONCE FEATURES CHIMAMANDA

CHIMAMANDA NGOZI ADICHIE

CHIMAMANDA NGOZI ADICHIE

“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller

We say to girls – you can have ambition, but not too much

You should aim to be successful but not too successful otherwise you will threaten the man

Because I am female I am expected to aspire to marriage

I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important

A marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support

But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same?

We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or for accomplishments,

Which I think can be a good thing

But for the attention of men

We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are

Feminist: A person who believes in the economic, social and political equality of the sexes.”

The 14-track album also features the pop diva’s husband Jay-Z and daughter Blue Ivy Carter, Drake and Frank Ocean.