Do you know your values? Before you answer this question, be sure you understand the meaning of the word “value”. Values are a set of beliefs that shape our lives. They are the principles that make the core of our being and define who we are and how we choose to be, to do, or to have. They determine what is important for us. They answer the questions, Why am I different from other people? Why do I choose to do certain things and avoid others? Why do I behave a certain way? Why am I attracted to some people and not to others? What am I willing to die for? What am I committed to? And many others. We all have values though most people go about life not really knowing what they are. Some people may know some of their values but they act in an unconscious level, like an automatic pilot. Most of the situations we face in life are acted upon as if they were an automatic reaction, we are not really aware that it is our values that are making us choose how to deal with these situations.
Our values are related to our culture, our society, and our own experience. We receive our values from the important people in our lives… first, parents then family members, friends, and other influential people, such as religious leaders, teachers, political and show biz or entertainment personalities, and icons and society in general, and so on. In fact, we keep borrowing values and changing them until we reach a certain level of maturity and decidedly know which ones best serve us. But they are still not set on stone. Each decision we make comes from a value that we hold dear. For example, to me, nothing can take the place of love in my life. Love influences everything I do. To some, patriotism is a great value to behold. To others, education is more important. To some a lie indicates dishonesty, while others couldn’t care less about a white lie here and there. If we want to understand who we are, we need to be aware of the values we hold dear. If we want to understand others, we need to know about their values. It is this learning about ours and their values that will help us have tolerance for the diverse world around us, and accept people just as they are. Our relationships will thrive, especially our loving relationships, a better understanding of ourselves and our partner will lead to a better relationship in general, and, as a product of this understanding, we will find happiness.
That is why knowing of our values is so important. Our values determine who we are and give us directions to where we want to be, what we desire to have, and what we want to do. It is based on our values that we determine our goals, objectives and directions. Now I ask again, what are your values? Be Enlightened! Be inspired!! Be Motivated!!