Archive | September 2013

To be happy in life, we have to use dedication, concentration and regular injection of inspiration to make our actions happy. There are many people in the world giving out negative vibes, who don’t believe in being happy.

The secret to a healthy life is to be happy. And to be happy, we have to make happiness our ultimate goal at all times. Though there are some people who argue against this, I think that being happy in life makes life look much rosier. To be happy in life, we have to use dedication, concentration and regular injection of inspiration to make our actions happy. There are many people in the world giving out negative vibes, who don’t believe in being happy. In addition to this, there are also many things and places that tend to drain your body of energy and in the process, make you feel unhappy.
So what kind of happy character are you? How many of these happy characteristics do you resonate ? ***They are ‘glass half full’ people – while still being practical and down-to-earth.  They have an ability to find the good in any situation.
***They understand that happiness is a choice, and consciously and methodically create their own happiness, while others hope happiness will find them.
***They are ambitious.  They don’t believe in, or wait for fate, destiny, chance or luck to determine or shape their future.  They take control and choose to live their best life rather than spending it on auto-pilot.
***They have clarity and certainty about what they want and don’t want for their life.  They visualize and plan their best reality while others are merely spectators of life.  They have identified their core values – what is important to them – and they do their best to live a life which is reflective of these values.
***They ask the right questions – the ones which put them in a happy, creative, positive mindset and emotional state.
***They rarely complain because they know it’s a waste of energy.  All complaining does is put the complainer in a negative state of mind.
***They don’t procrastinate and they don’t spend their life waiting for the ‘right time’.  They are busy, productive and proactive with their goals.  While most are laying on the couch, over-planning, over-thinking, sitting on their hands and generally going around in circles, they are out there taking steps in the right direction.
***They are fearful like everyone else, but they are not controlled or limited by their fears – they face them and grow beyond them over time.
***They don’t blame others.  They take complete responsibility for their actions and outcomes, or their lack thereof.
***While they are not necessarily more talented than the majority, they always find ways to maximize their potential.  They get more out of themselves by exercising their talents and their passions.  In other words, they use what they have more effectively, which leads to long-term personal achievement and happiness.
***They avoid toxic people, and spend time with positive, like-minded people. They understand the importance of being part of a team, and part of healthy relationships.
***They take calculated risks that help them expand their horizons and grow – financially, emotionally, professionally, etc.
***They deal with problems and challenges quickly and effectively, they don’t put their head in the sand.  They face their challenges and use them as vehicles for personal growth.
***They are solution focused.  They learn a lesson and move on to bigger and better things while others are still stuck on the problem.
While many people are reactive, they are proactive.  They take action in pursuit of their goals and the things that make them happy.
***They are life-long learners.  They constantly work at educating themselves, either formally (academically), informally (watching, listening, asking, reading) or experientially (doing, trying).  And their education helps them discover new vehicles to happiness and success.
***They are humble and they are happy to admit mistakes and to apologize when they should.  ***They are confident in their ability, but not arrogant.  They keep an open mind, and are happy to learn from others.
***They are more effective than most at managing their emotions.  They feel like we all do but they are not slaves to their emotions.
While many people are pleasure junkies that avoid pain and discomfort at all costs, truly happy people understand the value and benefits of working through the tough situations that others typically avoid.
***They sacrifice short-term pleasure for long-term happiness.  They are more interested in something being effective than they are in something being easy.  While everyone else is looking for the quickest shortcut, they look for the course of action which will produce the best results over the long term.
***They are multi-dimensional, and create balance in their lives by properly managing the time they devote to family, friends, work, hobbies, etc.  Because they realize that too much, or not enough, of one of these things creates stress and unhappiness.  They realize that not only are they physical and psychological beings, but emotional and spiritual creatures as well.  They consciously work at being healthy and happy on all levels.
***They are adaptable and embrace change.  While the majority are creatures of comfort and habit, they are comfortable with, and embrace, the new and the unfamiliar.  They are strong, and they are happy to take the road less traveled.
***They aren’t as concerned with what others want for them as they are with what they know is right for themselves.  They are happy to swim against the tide, to do what most won’t.  ***They are not people pleasers and they don’t need constant approval.
***They are secure.  They do not derive their sense of self-worth from what they own, who they know, where they live or what they look like.  Their self-worth is a reflection of who they are and how they choose to live.
***They are generous and kind, and take pleasure in helping others achieve happiness too.  They are happy to make others look good rather than seek their own personal glory – they share the goodness every chance they get.
***They keep themselves in shape physically, not to impress others, but because they understand the importance of being physically well as it relates to their happiness and longevity.  Their body is not who they are, it’s where they live.
***They don’t invest time or emotional energy into things which they have no control over.  They concentrate solely on the things they can control.
***Their career is not their identity, it’s their job.  It’s not who they are, it’s what they do.  And over time, they gradually align their career with their values – changing positions, employers, and careers as necessary.
***They have an off switch.  They know how to relax, let loose and enjoy what they have in their life right now.
***They practice what they preach.  They don’t talk about the theory, they live the reality.  They do what they need to do, for themselves and their loved ones – for the sake of long-term happiness and success. Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!

This entry was posted on September 29, 2013. 2 Comments

JUDGING A BOOK BY ITS COVER…But maybe more importantly, judging by appearances helps protect us from dangerous situations.

ImageAppearance can mislead you greatly. It takes time to sort out who is actually a good person with a strong character and who is conniving and manipulative but by using a veneer of charm and superficial physical attraction, takes advantage of others. A big, tough and strong man, who has a rough look, can be judged as scary. While on the contrary, he can have a tender heart and a sweet soul. Moreover, history shows many horrible crimes are carried out by people who are not considered “dangerous” simply because of their innocent and sophisticated look. Using our universities as an example, most of the cult guys were handsome and innocent looking but you can’t even begin to imagine the sort of ugly things they do ranging from theft to rape. Now this is in the aspect of beauty and ugliness. Which I personally believe people should not be judged with. But believe it or not, JUDGING IS PART OF LIFE I wouldn’t say it is “wrong” to judge people based on appearances. Judging appearances is a major element of human life (animals too). Because of judgments, we are able to determine what types of friend circles will make us happiest and what kind of mates we wish to select to be with for the rest of our lives. But maybe more importantly, judging by appearances helps protect us from dangerous situations. Would you not judge a menacing looking figure in a dark alley just because it’s “not nice” to judge? Or will you see a man with lots of tattoo, a bottle of jack daniel with a wrap of indian hemp playing loud music from his car while smoking and think of him the same way you would think of a reverend father? Will you see a mature woman, half nude, with red hair,tattoos etc on the road and regard her as an angel? Whether we admit it or not, judging people based on appearance is most times an unconscious thing! Its ok to Judge… No, it is not wrong to judge people on their physical appearance. If you are driving through an unfamiliar area late in the evening and notice a group of males with gang symbols, multiple piercing and their underwear sticking up above their waistbands standing around on a street corner, you are going to make an instant judgment based on their appearance, and you are going to keep driving without stopping to ask directions. There are times when judging someone by their physical appearance can literally save your life. If you are an angel, why should you be dressed up like the devil and expect people to see the angel in you… If you are a Doctor, will you get patients dressing or looking like a road side mechanic. While we go on talking about “NOT JUDGING A BOOK BY ITS COVER” let’s not forget that we are addressed the way we are dressed. In the aspect of Ugliness and beauty, I can’t judge anyone. But your dressing speaks a lot about you and might not avail you the chance to prove that indeed you are an angel… And note that ATTRACTION is based mainly on physical appearance and first impressions so we judge unconsciously. 

We have all been judged and we have all judged. Judgment will never stop, so if you are an angel, don’t appear like a devil because there may not be an avenue for you to prove yourself… No one sees a loving heart, a kind soul through the devil. Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!

This entry was posted on September 26, 2013. 6 Comments

During the harder times, things get a little tricky. For instance, in these economic times when there are many men who are unemployed. (Boost his self esteem)

In a hard society with such harsh economic situations, what a man needs is a woman who would constantly boost his confidence and self esteem through her words and deeds. Sincerely, it is not easy for the men, a lot is expected from them and the truth is most of them really try in terms of working hard but we all know the state of the nation. So while they hustle and work round the clock to make ends meet. We the women in their lives should motivate them in little ways we can. It goes a long way to help them and give them all the energy and enthusiasm they need to work harder. Appreciate his efforts! When a man does something for you, whether it is because you could not do it or because you allowed him to help, be appreciative. People want to help, but no one wants to feel unappreciated. No matter how little or how big the deed, it’s important that he knows that his efforts are appreciated. Otherwise he has no incentive to want to help again, and you will both be denying him the opportunity to step up and do more of these things that should make him feel great.

Treating a man special is something that is too often overlooked but is such a great tool. Many men will say that this is not their thing, but a spa day is such a great gift. The massage, the facial, the manicure/pedicure can all be tailored for the manly man (in my immaturity,I still laugh at the clear polish on the nails though). In today’s tougher economic time, it may not be as easy to afford the day at the spa, but providing all the services for him at home may work just as well.

Taking him out on a date and making that whole day for him does a lot too. When you go through the trouble of making a day about someone, that says “I think you are important”, and it validates this person’s place in your life. He will also be thinking “I must really be important for someone to go through all the trouble of planning a day for me”, and that will have a positive impact on his views of self as well. Everyone wants to feel that they matter. Looks are important too. Just as a woman likes to hear that she’s beautiful when she gets all dolled up, and man will enjoy that too. Men also put forth the effort to smell nice, so when he does smell nice that should also be complimented. Smiles, teeth, eyes and whatever else comes up are also good targets for compliments as well. The catch to making the most impact with a compliment is to lead with it. When a person compliments you first, there is that rule of politeness that you feel the need to return it. No matter how genuine the returned compliment, sometimes it can feel less than heartfelt or you run the risk of the person thinking that you were just returning their compliment. When you lead with a compliment, there is not as much wiggle room for the interpretation of your intent, It’s a compliment. During the harder times, things get a little tricky. For instance, in these economic times when there are many men who are unemployed. If yours is one of them it’ll be hard on both of you. To start, you may need a book of affirmations (I’m only partly joking with this one). If your man is at that stage he may need you now more than ever, because when he doubts, he needs you to believe in him. He needs to know that you are behind him no matter what. These are the times for the SILENT sacrifices; when you have to pass on something you want, and not complain about it. This is when you don’t go to the concert and plan a nice romantic evening at home instead. It will be hard to work the extra hours and then come home to look over his new cover letter, but your devotion will motivate him to keep trying.

It is true that actions do speak louder than words, but words can also be very powerful. Try this exercise that can be used with anyone in your life. When you get ready to say something take a moment to evaluate the potential impact of the words you are going to say. As you do this you will remind yourself “words are for helping, not for hurting”. If you find that the words you were ready to utter are not going to help the person, take a second to find a more positive response before you speak. Use words to empower him. The intent should always be to build him back up, not bring him further down.

Five things you can do:

1. Tell him you believe in him.
2. Show and tell him that he is appreciated.
3. Acknowledge his successes.
4. Wish him well when he’s down, if you pray tell him you pray for him.
5. Remind him how great he is.

Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!

This entry was posted on September 25, 2013. 2 Comments

12 things men find irresistible in women…(You are VERY intelligent, you just might not realize it yet. I know this because you are here right now looking to better your love life, and that is a very intelligent thing to do, and it’s rare.)

No doubt! Its a blessing to be beautiful because it opens up doors for you without stress. But whether the door remains open depends on a lot of other factors, so beauty is not always an ASSET after all unless you put in efforts to make it be. Most times, we see the ones we tag ugly enjoy absolute bliss in their relationships. We make statements like, WHAT DID THIS MAN EVEN SEE IN THIS WOMAN. A lot of factors are responsible. What do men find attractive in a woman beyond her “physical” looks… attractive enough to see a woman as completely irresistible… and how do you keep this long into a relationship?
Have you ever had a man lose interest in you over what seemed like the smallest things… or even nothing at all?
Perhaps he never even told you the real reason why he didn’t want to see you anymore…
Well to a man, those small things are actually very big.
After years of personal research talking with thousands of men and women, I have discovered what causes that “spark” in a man for a woman and boiled down and refined what causes men to feel that SPARK of love for a woman.
The one thing I have learned over the years is no matter how beautiful, intelligent or nice a women is, unless she knows these “secrets” about being IRRESISTIBLE to a man, she will deal with men pulling away, losing interest, avoiding commitment and even leaving.
Let’s get to it…
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #1: Sense Of Humor
There isn’t one guy I know of who doesn’t absolutely love a woman who laughs at his stupid jokes simply out of a sensitive humorous bone.
You can always see a man’s face light up when a woman laughs… and when men hear loud laughter, say, from a woman across the room for another man, it has the power to make him jealous… he wants that laughter to be for him.
Humor is “childlike” energy and is like a BILLBOARD mounted to a woman’s forehead that says “I’m a catch!”
Men feel this on a gut level.
I’m not talking about faking a sense of humor… many women do this, but when you fake laughter, without knowing it you throw red flags.
Men can often sense when a woman’s laughter is authentic.
It’s important to be genuine, and is it that hard to be genuinely sensitive to humor
A woman who laughs out of insecurity is easy for men to spot and turns a woman from special and irresistible to repellent.
But, a woman who is really sensitive to humor is an amazing find for a man that all men not just want but NEED to have.
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #2: “Youthfulness”
This connects with #1 because it comes from a playful heart… and when I say youthfulness, I don’t mean age.
In fact it couldn’t be further from physical age.
Youthfulness is a state of mind.
Now it’s going to be difficult to get this through your head because women in our society are taught over and over and over again that if they are not young and pretty, they don’t stand a chance at being attractive to a man.
NOT TRUE.
Youth is an ENERGY. Men can spot a woman who’s had it “ruff from the world” and who’s become cold and skeptical inside, because she has men dispersing away from her, being old, cynical and cold inside is like spraying yourself with “man repellent perfume”.
But you always know a woman who is fresh and has kept herself separate from the negativity of other’s opinions.
A child playing on the play ground hasn’t been burdened by the world’s “adulthood” and “responsibilities” yet.
All she cares about is PLAYING… in the sand, swinging on the swings and having fun THIS moment.
And I believe this is absolutely possible for ANY woman.
She is fresh, she doesn’t hold onto the past and she’s not living in the future.
I’m always amazed when I see 18 year old girls who feel 40, and then when I see 40 year old women who feel 18.
It’s just a matter of learning what men want.
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #3: Body Language
Behavioral psychologists say body language is 55% of ALL communication between men and women (vocal tone being 38%, and words/language the other 7%).
Here’s the “magic formula” for body language.
Hips loose and tilted a bit forward, arch in the lower back allowing weight to release off the upper-back and fall onto the lower, shoulders and upper back relaxed, chest present, chin up… (there’s more to this having more to do with “energy”, but I can’t get into this right now).
A smile tells a man you are open to him on a gut level and no smile will show him you are “untouchable”.
Body language is a person’s “energetic pulse” to the world that tells everyone if they feel amazing about themselves or like a shipwreck.
You may hate her (and I’m not her biggest fan either), but you have to admit that Paris Hilton has great body language.
If you can leave the hatred at the door and LEARN from her, I HIGHLY recommend checking her attractive body language secrets out.
When you learn how to have powerful body language with a man (and it’s not difficult) this is as close to “magic” as it gets with seeing men respond INSTANTLY with attraction.
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #4: Positive Emotional Expression
What do I mean by emotional expression? I mean POSITIVE emotional expression that flows from your feminine nature as a woman.
Allow your “feminine nature” to flow through you without repressing it.
Most women let their negative emotions come out around a man and accidentally push him away in the process.
Most women don’t understand that when a woman becomes overly-emotional in a negative way, it will push a man away.
But positive emotions, on the other hand, have the power to get a man literally addicted.
This is one of the most powerfully attractive qualities to high quality men.
Men are attracted to their opposite, his POLAR opposite…to the positively emotional.
You just have to learn the right way to avoid expressing negative emotion without becoming “weak”.
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #5: Patience
It is extremely RARE for a man to find a woman who is “patient”.
Let’s face it, most women in the world today are borderline A.D.D.
But I’m serious, most men I know are ridiculously grateful when they find a woman who is patient.
Yeah, A.D.D. is cute to some guys (I find it funny and love to make light-hearted fun of women like this) but lets face it, most guys are kind of slow.
And just like in elementary school where there’s a “special kids program” where the teachers are very patient with the children in that class, the same goes with men…
When a woman is impatient, it’s a turns off to a man… and in many cases it’s the final nail in the coffin.
What I’m talking about is authentic, compassionate patience that comes from relaxing.
Men, the yang masculine (my weird way of telling between men and woman) is path or goal-oriented… and when a man finally meets a woman who relaxes with his path whatever that may be, it’s “two thumbs up” for him.
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #6: Self-Care And Beauty
Beauty, healthy hair, good looking skin, makeup, healthy weight; these are the superficial things men adore.
These are the more OUTWARD expressions of femininity.
Yes some people say “there is NO such thing as an ugly woman, only a lazy one.”
Now whether they are right or wrong, where most women go wrong in this department is putting TO MUCH weight on physical beauty.
When you put too much weight on one leg and that “leg” is weak and you don’t look pretty one day, your entire self-image is destroyed.
This is not good because you become like a ROLLERCOASTER.
Here’s what I believe is needed… Balance, balance, balance.
Put some weight onto the other leg of the INNER beauty, because the fact is the inner is just as important as the outer.
And there is a way to becoming internally beautiful to men in a way that makes men RESPOND.
I  have gorgeous supermodel friends who agree that beauty is only one piece to the puzzle, and stated that being beautiful and well kept isn’t enough to hook a man, but it is a piece none the less.
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #7: Intelligence
You are VERY intelligent, you just might not realize it yet.
I know this because you are here right now looking to better your love life, and that is a very intelligent thing to do, and it’s rare.
When I say the word “intelligence”, I don’t mean book intellect, “street smarts” or being a philosopher.
What I really mean is the ability to be CREATIVE… a woman who is PRESENT and “here now”.
She is sharp, responsive, alive, witty and keeps a man on his toes.
You can look into her eyes and see that she is with you right now, not zoning off into space or thinking about the ten million thoughts that go through most women’s minds.
She responds to the moment… and this is an ability that every women has.
A woman who is “with” a man is extremely attractive, desirable and irresistible to a man.
A woman who is creative, sharp and present becomes a magnetic force for a man sucking him in without any resistance.
Unfortunately, most men will never experience this kind of women, so when she does come, well let’s just say, have you ever heard of those stories of guys proposing in the first 3 months?
There is a way to cultivate this aspect of yourself, and I believe you DO have this inside you… you have just to learn how.
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #8: Not “Needing” But Wanting
Most guys can sense neediness, which usually causes them to run the other direction.
But they can also sense a girl who WANTS rather than needs.
Being needed will stroke his ego and make him feel good about himself, but there’s an even greater possibility he will eventually freak out and run.
Being wanted, on the other hand, makes a man feel even better, plus he won’t run… he will feel compelled.
I only know this by talking to thousands of guys about this.
A woman who has the self-confidence enough to want, to desire, and not be attached is pure gold to a man.
Then adventure, playfulness and challenge come naturally.
There’s a fine line between being a slave to needing, or being free to want.
If you deal with neediness on a day to day basis and want to learn how to become self-confident and free of fear, anxiety, neediness, self-doubt or jealousy, then check out my emotional balancing tips.
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #9: Nurturance
 Most men enjoy independence in a woman, but men also secretly like to feel taken care of as well.
You just have to do it in the right way.
An enlightened Indian mystic said that “a man’s life is a journey to find the happiness he once felt inside the womb of his mother.”
And the beauty is nuturance is one of the most basic female primal instincts… and most guys want that little tiny bit of mommy in a girlfriend… but not too much or you risk annoying him and causing him to pull away.
And just like #8, nurture out of want not need… a very fine line indeed.
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #10: Sexually Adventurous
Sexual repression makes people very, very… VERY angry.
Scientists, presidents, poets, hot guys and musicians all agree.
A woman who is alive sexually makes a man on his toes.
He never knows what’s going to happen next… and what happens in the bedrooms always gets carried out the bedroom too.
In fact, the bedroom is where you create your role for the relationship. If you are not adventurous sexually, then the relationship will turn cold.
Sex is the barometer of the relationship, and what you bring to it will decide how irresistible your man will find you.
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #11: Love
A woman filled with love in her heart is one of the most beautiful things in the world to a man.
She is fearless and hatred and fear in heart falls away.
Love is not weak, it is PURE POWER.
Love comes out of relaxation and when that restless need for approval falls away and all that is left is the love you feel in your heart for another.
Love is owned by nobody. It is completely free. You can’t buy it in the store, you can put your name on it.
It is simply free energy.
You just need to know HOW to handle love so that you don’t “lose yourself” to it completely and wind up getting hurt.
What Men Find Irresistible Secret #12: Integrity
This is probably the most difficult “secret” for me to explain to you, but I’m going to anyway.
A woman who has real values and sticks up for herself is like a beacon of light to a man.
Many women I have talked to are pushed and pulled by the wind at every moment. They will tell a friend they love them, and then talk negatively about them behind their back. And I have to sit down with them and get them thinking of what they stand up for and believe in, even to death.
Most women don’t understand why they have so little security in life and constantly worry. It’s because they have never developed a sense of honor and integrity.
Honor and integrity gives you a sense of freedom and power that nothing else can give you.
But most women have no stability and live life in what I call the “Soap Opera Matrix”.
Integrity creates sanity. It’s one of the few things you come into the world with, and its one of the easiest things to take for granted and sell for sparkly looking toys.
Security is good, but if you build too many walls around yourself and try to become “all powerful” you lose your delicacy, your female beauty and then you become unattractive to men. I have seen this happen to too many women.
It’s a delicate balance.
Here’s a simple list I suggest you start with (and I follow myself):
 
a. Your health. Your mind, body and soul come FIRST. Without you there is nothing else so you must be kept in good shape and happy.
b. Love. Love is one of the highest values. Love comes BEFORE pleasure although most people always reverse them. Ever ask yourself “Is it love or lust?” They can’t tell because pleasure has always come first. You must know how to bring LOVE to the front.
c. Freedom. Never be a slave to anybody, even if you feel like you want to. You are a free being, and most men want this in a woman.
d. Pleasure. Celebration comes naturally after all of these things are taken care of. Most people try to put pleasure as their number one. They will abuse their bodies, weaken their integrity and sell their soul to have it. Most people are not in pursuit of happiness, they are in pursuit of PLEASURE…but that pleasure is always accompanied by pain. There’s an endless rollercoaster of pleasure/pain when it becomes number one. However, pleasure comes naturally when it comes after other more important things… like having the “know how” to sustain a long LASTING relationship (if you have my book, you know exactly what I’m talking about).
What I want you to understand is this is just the very tip of the iceberg, and I’ve done my best to condense a lot of very important information into a tiny article.
There is a lot more you must understand if you are to make a man find you irresistible, attracted, and wanting to stay in a relationship with you.
You also need to know what to AVOID to get a man to want to come closer to you and stay with you. Be Enlightened! Be Inspired!! Be Motivated!!!

Don’t let snoring damage your relationship…Snoring can be very embarrassing, you may be the brunt of jokes at gatherings (Chinenye snores so loud that the house shakes).

Don’t get me wrong when I say I prefer to sleep with the radio on than sleep close to a snoring person. I am very tolerant but believe me snoring is so disturbing. Sleeping beside someone who snores can be annoying and frustrating, to say the least. The quality of your sleep is seriously compromised when sleeping beside someone with a snoring problem. Everyone knows the benefits of a good night sleep. While many people think that snoring is uncontrollable, that’s simply not the case. There are many things you can do to help reduce snoring. snoring can cause a rift in your relationship. No matter how much you love each other, lack of sleep or poor quality sleep from frequent snoring can strain a relationship as well as put your partner’s health at risk.
When snoring is a problem, relationship tension can grow in the following ways:
SLEEPING ALONE. If you or your partner snores, you might decide to sleep alone. That only makes for a lack of physical intimacy and a strained relationship. And if you’re the one snoring, you might feel lonely, isolated, and frustrated about something you feel you have no control over.
SNORING SPATS. It’s common to be irritable when lack of sleep is an issue. But try reining in your frustration. Remember, you want to attack the snoring problem not your sleep partner.
Partner resentment. When a non-snorer feels they do everything possible to sleep through the night (ear-plugs, noise-machines, etc.) but their partner does nothing to combat their own snoring, it can lead to resentment. Working as a team to find a snoring cure can prevent future fights.
If you value your relationship, make it your priority to find a snoring cure so you can both sleep soundly. Working together to stop snoring can even be an opportunity to improve the quality of your bond and become more deeply connected. . If you are looking to curb the night time noise (snoring) in your home, consider these tried and tested methods: 1. Avoid Alcohol
Drinking alcohol before bedtime relaxes the muscles in your face and throat. The relaxation interferes with breathing and makes you go into a deeper sleep. Once you are in a deep sleep, you are more likely to snore. If you really enjoy a glass of wine or a beer before bed, try consuming it at least an hour before you hit the hay.
2. Shower Before Bed
Taking a hot shower right before bed will help open the nasal passages and make breathing easier when you go to bed. Make the water as hot as possible so the steam clears out all of the passage ways. Some experts suggest rinsing your nose out with a saltwater rinse in the shower for even better relief.
3. Elevate Your Head
Many experts agree that raising your head 4 inches can help reduce snoring. This position makes breathing easier and forces your tongue and jaw to drop downwards instead back into your throat. For a temporary solution, consider adding an extra pillow on top of the one you use now. If you notice an improvement, there are specially designed pillows available to keep your head in the right position during the night.
4. Sleep on Your Side
Many people have a hard time sleeping on their side but, if you can get a restful night sleep in this position, it can really help to eliminate snoring. Sleeping on your back makes your tongue drop back into your throat which blocks your breathing and makes snoring more common. Keep your airway clear by sleeping on your side.
5. Lose Weight
This may seem like a difficult task but heavier individuals are more prone to snoring. If you can lose the weight, you might lose the snoring as well. Experts say that losing even a little bit of weight can reduce fatty tissue in the back of the throat which will help clear your airways and ease your breathing.
6. Stay Hydrated
Drinking plenty of water throughout the day (and especially right before bed) can work wonders on reducing snoring. Secretions in your nose become stickier when you’re not hydrated properly, making you more susceptible to snoring.  How much water is enough? The Institute of Medicine reveals that healthy women should consume 11 cups of water a day (this includes water from all foods and beverages) and men should consume 16 cups.
7. Try Throat Exercises
Dedicating 30 minutes a day to throat exercises will have a significant impact on the frequency of your snoring. One exercise is saying each vowel (a-e-i-o-u) out loud several times. Another is placing the tip of your tongue behind your top teeth and sliding your tongue backwards for 3 minutes a day. Opening your mouth and moving your jaw to the left and right and holding on each side for 30 seconds will also help to reduce snoring.
8. Don’t Overwork Yourself
Do you notice your snoring is louder or more frequent when you are stressed out or overworked? This is because (similar to alcohol) your body and mind are exhausted when you hit the bed at night, forcing you to go into a deep sleep. Once you’re in a deep sleep, the chances of snoring increase considerably. Try and refrain from working crazy hours or playing sports/exercising right before bed. Snoring can be very embarrassing, you may be the brunt of jokes at gatherings (Chinenye snores so loud that the house shakes). Snoring has a lot of implications. For one, a snoring spouse often keeps the other person from a good night’s sleep, which can eventually lead to separate bedrooms. Snoring can create real problems in a marriage/ relationship. Not only is snoring a nuisance, but 75% of people who snore have obstructive sleep apnea (when breathing is disrupted during sleep for short periods), which increases the risk of developing heart disease. So friends, please do yourselves good by doing things that will reduce the way you snore if not get rid of it entirely.
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Ways To Determine a Woman’s Love…

When it comes to love and particularly women, men can experience difficulties in deciding if a woman loves them or not. There are ways to tell if a woman loves you by the way she moves, the way she speaks, and other actions she takes even when she is not with you.

If you are in a new relationship, and don’t know how to interpret the signals you’re getting from the woman you are dating, here are ten signs she loves you:

1. You notice a change in her appearance: When it comes to a woman who is in love, you will notice a sudden makeover in the way she looks. Her makeup, hairstyle, clothes and accessories will change as she will do anything to try and impress you.

2. She shows genuine concern for you: When a woman falls in love, she will worry about you and won’t be able to stay away if she notices you’re having troubles. She will let you know that she’s there for you in case you need her, and she will be deeply concerned and interested in any problems you’re having.

3. She shows you off to family and friends: A woman who really loves a man is proud to be with him and can’t wait to show him off to her friends and family. She will constantly talk about you with others and will be deeply interested in wanting to know your parents and your friends.

4. She makes sacrifices for you: Another sign that she really loves you is when she takes the time to be with you and to do the things you love to do. It is easy for her when you do the things she likes to do, but if you have noticed that she’s given up these normal activities to be with you, it’s an indication that she cares about you a great deal.

5. She talks about the future with you: A woman in love will talk very excitedly about the future, making plans regarding it and telling you about the things she wants the two of you to do together. She will make subtle hints while imagining building a future with you in it.

6. She does unexpected, yet pleasant things to surprise you: It’s in a woman’s nature to want to give to the people she cares about. If she begins doing things like showing up at your workplace with lunch, buying you meaningful gifts, straightening up around your apartment, cooking you dinner or helping with your laundry, she is very likely in love with you.

7. She touches you frequently: A woman in love enjoys being physically close to the person she appreciates so much, so you should guess her feelings from reading her body language. She will touch you often, rest her hand on your arm, massage your back when you’re together and she might even have goose bumps when she’s near you.

8. You are the only guy she’s focused on: If she’s in love with you, she won’t be bothered with dealing with other guys, as you are now the only one she focuses her attention on.

9. She wants to be around you as much as possible: A woman in love won’t think twice about clearing up her busy schedule for you. She will postpone her appointments, be late for meetings, and skip classes at a moments notice to spend as much time with you as possible.

10. She wants to know intimate details about you: A woman in love will show a lot of interest in the life of a particular guy, so if she starts being extremely curious, sincerely and profoundly interested in every aspect of your life, asking about your day, wanting to know everything about your childhood, your family, and things that happened in your life that made you the man you are today, it’s a very good indication that she loves you. Written By Oduenyi Emmanuel.

Causes of Heavy Menstrual Bleeding.

All of us, from time to time, experience what we feel is unusually heavy bleeding during our menstrual periods. Fortunately, most often what we think is abnormal uterine bleeding is not excessive enough to be diagnosed as menorrhagia.
How do you know when bleeding during your period is abnormally heavy? The easiest way to know if you are experiencing menorrhagia is to take note of how often you need to change your pad or tampon. If your period is heavy enough to require changing more often than every one or two hours, or if you have a period that lasts more than a full week, you may be experiencing menorrhagia.
Let’s take a look at the most common causes of menorrhagia or heavy menstrual bleeding:
A hormonal imbalance during adolescence or menopause is the most common cause of heavy menstrual bleeding. During adolescence after girls have their first periods, and for several years before the onset of menopause when menstruation ceases, our hormones levels are fluctuating which often leads to excessive uterine bleeding during our periods. It’s often possible to treat menorrhagia caused by hormonal imbalances with birth control pills or other hormones.

 
Uterine fibroid tumors are another very common cause of excessive menstruation. It’s important to understand that fibroid tumors are usually benign (non-cancerous) tumors that often occur in the uterus of women during their thirties or forties. While the cause of uterine fibroid tumors is unclear, it is clear that they are estrogen-dependent. Several surgical treatments are available for treating fibroid tumors of the uterus including myomectomy, endometrial ablation, uterine artery embalization, and uterine balloon therapy, as well as hysterectomy. Non-surgical pharmacological treatments for fibroid tumors include GnRH agonists, oral contraceptives, androgens, RU486 (the abortion pill), and gestrinone. Some women find natural progesterone to be an effective treatment for uterine fibroid tumors. Often, when symptoms are not severe or troublesome, a “wait and see” approach is taken. Once menopause occurs, uterine fibroid tumors typically shrink and disappear without treatment.

 
Cervical polyps are small, fragile growths that begin in either the mucosal surface of the cervix, or the endocervical canal and protrude through the opening of the cervix. The cause of cervical polyps is not clear; however, they are often the result of an infection and many times associated with an abnormal response to increased estrogen levels or congestion of the blood vessels located in the cervix. Women most commonly affected by cervical polyps are those over the age of twenty who have had children. A simple out patient office procedure that removes the growth, along with antibiotics, is the usual treatment for cervical polyps.

 
Endometrial polyps are typically non-cancerous, growths that protrude from the lining of the uterus. The cause of endometrial polyps is unclear, although they are often associated with an excess of estrogen following hormone treatment or some types of ovarian tumors. Treatments for endometrial polyps include hysteroscopy and D&C. A pathology lab will evaluate endometrial polyps for cancer following removal.

Lupus is a chronic inflammatory, and autoimmune disease that affects several parts of the body, particularly the skin, joints, blood, and kidneys. The cause of lupus is unclear; however, it’s believed that patients have a genetic predisposition to Lupus and scientists know that environmental factors such as infections, certain types of antibiotics — particularly sulpha and penicillin drugs, UV light, severe stress, hormones and certain other drugs play a key role in triggering disease symptoms. The symptoms of Lupus vary widely among patients, as do the treatments which range from avoiding stress to drugs such as non-steroidal anti-inflammatory medications or NSAIDS, acetaminophen, steroids, antimalarials, cytoxic or immunosuppressive drugs, and anticoagulants.

 
Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) is an infection of one or more organs that affects the uterus, fallopian tubes, and cervix. PID is, most often, a sexually transmitted disease; however, it sometimes occurs following childbirth, abortion, or other gynecological procedures. The recommended treatment for pelvic inflammatory disease is antibiotic therapy.

 
Cervical cancer is a type of cancer that occurs when cells in the cervix become abnormal, multiply out of control, and damage healthy parts of the body. The human papillomavirus, or HPV, is the cause of over ninety percent of all cervical cancers. Treatments for cervical cancer include surgery, chemotherapy, and radiation therapy.

 
Endometrial cancer occurs when abnormal cells in the uterus or the endometrium (the lining of the uterus) multiply out of control and damage to the uterus and other organs. While the cause of endometrial cancer is unknown, it is known that women diagnosed with this type of cancer tend are usually over fifty, often have endometrial hyperplasia, or many times use hormone replacement therapy (HRT). The first treatment for endometrial cancer is usually a hysterectomy, possibly followed by chemotherapy and/or radiation treatments.
 
IUDs or intrauterine devices used for contraception are a potential cause of heavy menstrual bleeding or menorrhagia. Women who experience prolonged or heavy periods while using the IUD should have the device removed and choose an alternate method of birth control.

 
Bleeding disorders occur when it is hard for a person to stop bleeding. While there are several types of bleeding disorders, the most common type in women is von Willebrand Disease or VWD. Treatments for von Willebrand Disease involve the release of stored clotting factors in the blood, or in extreme cases the replacement of the clotting factor with IV treatment or with prescribed nasal spray.