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MY TALENT

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Talents? Hmmmm! The truth of the matter is, most people live all their lives not even knowing they have a talent or even discovering what their talent is. Thereby living a life that doesn’t fulfill their purpose of creation and existence. Talents are different from skills, in that they tend to be innate rather than learned. Once found, they can be nurtured and developed, but finding them can be tricky. It’s partly a process of self-observation and honesty. The rest is learning and practice. Studying a course and having a degree from a university is very good but I tell you, TALENT if discovered, nutured and practised not only give us fulfillment, but can take us to places beyond our dreams. Talents make us. Anybody can go to the university get a degree and still be as confused and unfulfilled as ever.

If not for Talent, people like Innocent Idibia(Tuface), Chinedum Okolie (Flavour), Beyonce, Mikel Obi etc may never be known or be fulfilled. Some people are so lucky, they know what or where their talent lies. But for some people, they don’t get to discover it and die without dicovering it. Every one of us was born with a gift. So today, I want to take time to outline the possible steps that will help you discover your talents. Its in a bid to motivate you and make you realize that in a society where unemployment and underemployment are major issues, there is still something you can do for yourself.

*** The first step in discovering your talent is to know what it is you love to do. Think about what you love to do. What do you usually enjoy doing, without being asked? What do you seem to be naturally good at?On what do you focus best or most enthusiastically? What must you be dragged away from doing?

 

***The second step is to play, yes play! Whatever that means to you, let yourself do it. It’s not just for children. Experiment, explore, investigate. Try doing different things and entertain different activities. Even try on different personalities.

Give yourself a safe environment for your explorations, one in which you feel free to explore and try different things without the creative inhibition that tells you you might be “wrong”. That could be as simple as practicing something alone, with nobody or only a trusted friend looking on. If nobody has to read your practice writing or watches your early attempts at dancing or looks at the notebook where you worked out the details of your latest invention, you won’t have to worry about what they think of it.

*** The third step towards achieving this goal of discovering your talent is taking some personality tests. They can offer insights into the way that you think.

*** The fourth step is to Learn about your learning style. You can find online quizzes for that, too. Major learning styles are visual, auditory, reading/writing, and tactile/kinesthetic.

*** This fifth step is a very important step that you must not fail to take note of. Notice what people tell you about yourself. Do they notice that you light up when you explain something? Does everybody seem to compliment you on your writing? Your physical coordination? Your singing?

*** The sixth step is to Consider your interests. What sorts of things do you like to read about, write about, or talk about? What shows do you watch on television? What magazine and newspaper articles catch your eye?

*** the seventh is Notice what you’re not good at, too. What seems always to be a struggle? What makes you feel awkward or out of place? For instance, some people are great talkers but hate writing; for others, it’s the other way around. That’s not to say you can’t develop skills and strategies in areas that are not your forte, but if you choose to do so, you will know that they are not

*** The eighth step is to Keep a journal or notebook of some sort. It doesn’t have to be fancy or formal. You could keep it on the computer or even use voice recordings, if you prefer. Freewriting from time to time is one good way to get at what’s on your mind. If writing isn’t for you, try drawing pictures, “mind-mapping”, or making notes some other way that suits you. Regardless of the method, capture your thoughts now and then. It can help you to spot patterns and themes within your life.

 

*** And that takes us to the Ninth step, Nothing will ever be refined, improved on or be good without consistent practice. Didn’t they say that practice makes perfect? Once you find something you love to do, do more of it. You will improve your skills and refine your technique this way. You will also discover the depths of your talent, whether it was more a passing phase. Even if the interest turns out to be temporary, you may notice what interested you about a particular


Hmmmmmm, some people feel or think that hoarding is a way of safe guarding talents. Nope, when you hoard, you can never be seen or heard and you can never practise enough to be refined. You are not open so you don’t know what areas to improve on because no one has ever seen or heard you to even point out your flaws. Share your talent with others. It’s ok to practice by yourself, but at some point, you should nurture your talent by finding a teacher, even if it’s just somebody else with more experience at something who can give you advice. Having an audience (even a small one) is, in many cases, equally important.

*** This takes us to the last but not the least step. Yeah, its bad not to discover your talent, but its worse to discover it and not put it to use. And this is the eleventh step, Use your talent. Make the world a better place, or just show off. Consider making a career of it, or just a hobby. Or if you just want to make it useful just for yourself. Discovering your talent and not putting it to use causes depression and a worse kind of depression. Discovering who we are is joyful, putting it to use is fulfilling. I urge us to put in a little effort to discover who we are. Rushing off to study a course in the University is very good but studying what you should never have studied is an error. Doing something you don’t like to do through out your life is a sure sign of depression. Discover your talent today and live a more fulfilled life.
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BAD EATING HABITS YOU MUST STOP NOW!

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In a world of high speed Internet, automated tellers, fast cars, and fast food, taking the time to maintain healthy eating habits may seem as daunting as finding a VHS movie at the video store. ating, an activity that was once a main priority, has become something that we either have to fit into our day, or something we do thoughtlessly and carelessly, not paying all that much attention to what we put into our bodies.

 

Furthermore, many of the bad eating habits you think will help you shed pounds may actually lead to weight gain. Lucky for you, you don’t have to resort to a prehistoric lifestyle to break your bad eating habits; funneling unhealthy eating habits out of your life is easier and takes less time than you think.

 

Stay away from these bad eating habits to get on the fast track to a healthier life, leaner body, and more satisfying eating experience:

 

1- Skipping breakfast

 

Why is it bad?

As far as ideas go, skipping breakfast is a pretty bad one. Not only does starting the day with a healthy breakfast give you a boost of energy and help clear the fog out of your brain, it also helps you make healthy eating choices throughout the entire day, as you already primed your good eating habits first thing in the morning.

 

Eating breakfast may also help you to eat fewer calories later in the day. A study at the University of Texas at El Paso found that a given number of calories consumed earlier in the day is more filling than the same number of calories eaten later on, lessening overall calorie consumption.

 

What to do:

You’re less likely to make bad eating choices at lunch if you eat properly in the morning, so start the day off with a breakfast of champions. Try a bowl of oatmeal and cup of low fat yogurt, or a poached egg with whole grain toast and fresh fruit.

 

2- Eating before bed

 

Why is it bad?

If you’re seeking sweet dreams, avoid eating before bedtime. While no conclusive studies prove that eating before bed leads to weight gain, eating too much food, or eating spicy foods, fatty foods and caffeine one to three hours before bedtime can reduce the quality and length of your sleep, making you fatigued, sluggish and generally not fun to be around the next day. Eating fatty foods before bed will slow down the emptying of the stomach, exacerbating indigestion, while spicy foods can lead to heartburn and indigestion.

 

What to do:

If you just can’t say no to the rumbling in your stomach before sleeping, snack on some fresh fruit to avoid feeling like someone’s blowing up a small country in your stomach while you sleep.

 

Stop eating in front of the TV…

 

3- Binging

 

Why is it bad?

Maybe if popular binging foods were celery sticks and lettuce leaves, nutritionists wouldn’t have such a problem with this form of eating, but unfortunately food binges usually come in the form of fatty snack foods like chips, pizza or cookies. Gorging yourself on said foods will likely lead to weight gain, dissatisfaction, and a feeling that you lack discipline.

 

What to do:

Eat five to six smaller meals per day, rather than three large ones, which leave the window open for binging on snacks between meals. Eating healthy, small meals containing complex carbs and lean protein spaced throughout the day will not only help curb your appetite, they’ll also reduce your chances of overeating. Consuming five or six small meals will also help you burn more calories throughout the day, since your metabolism will be constantly running high.

 

4- Starving yourself

 

Why is it bad?

Contrary to what you may think, the body’s first reaction to starvation is weight gain via the storage of fat. Why does the body do this? Well, when you don’t eat for long periods of time, your body becomes pretty upset that you’ve been depriving it of food, so when you finally do eat again, your body thinks it needs to store these calories as fat because it doesn’t know when the chance to eat will come again. And then, the fat remains with you.

 

What to do:

If your intentions in regards to starving yourself are to lose weight, then it’s time to reevaluate your diet and begin a workout program or up the intensity of your current gym routine. Make sure your diet is high in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and includes lean meats and fish. Try hitting the gym three to five times a week, and make sure to vary your workout routine. The best way to lose fat is through a healthy diet and regular exercise, not through depriving your body of the calories and nutrients it needs to function.

 

5- Eating while doing something else

 

Why is it bad?

Not only is eating while doing something else a great way to get food all over yourself, it also tends to lead to overeating, and subsequently, weight gain. If you eat while you’re watching TV, talking on the phone, or playing a video game, these external distractions will lead your body to pay less attention to internal hunger and satiety cues that may be telling you that you’re not even hungry, or that you’re way too full. Plus, once you begin eating while doing something else, you often can’t stop, since the act of eating becomes a thoughtless, mechanical movement that could just go on and on.

 

What to do:

Try to focus on one thing at a time. Wandering into the kitchen when you’re on the phone is a bad idea. If you’re eating just to keep your hands and mouth busy, find other distractions that don’t involve calories. Start chewing gum, take up guitar playing, or busy your hands by giving your girlfriend a neck massage.

 

Slow down dude, it’s not a race…

 

6- Eating too fast

 

Why is it bad?

Life is fast. Do you really want yours to pass you by? Didn’t think so. Start slowing things down at your next meal because eating too quickly isn’t doing you favors. Hoovering in your food at warp speed will not only make you look like you just walked out of the Neolithic ages, it also encourages weight gain. It takes about 20 minutes from the time you begin eating for satiety signals to reach your brain, so if you wolf down your meal in 5.6 minutes, your brain won’t get the chance to tell your body that it’s full, making you overeat and filling your body with more food and calories than you need.

 

What to do: 

Slow down, relax, really chew your food and enjoy the taste of what you’re eating. This allows your brain to realize that you’re eating, so it can signal to your body that you’re full. If you’re pressed for time at breakfast or lunch, make sure that your meal is small to begin with, so that even if you do end up eating fast, it won’t be more calories than you need.

 

7- Not drinking enough water

 

Why is it bad?

It’s no secret that water is necessary for the optimal functioning of all life forms, humans included. What’s surprising is that not drinking adequate amounts of water throughout the day can actually slow down your metabolism, making weight gain a likely possibility, since water is necessary for all metabolic functions, including calorie burning.

 

What to do:

Unless you’re wandering around the Sahara, water should be readily available to you, and you should drink lots of it. Aim to chug back eight to 10 glasses a day, and more if you exercise regularly. It’s also a smart move to drink water with your meal rather than juice or soda, which may fill you up faster than water, but contains lots of empty calories. And chances are, these empty calories will leave you feeling hungry 30 minutes later.

 

8- Not eating enough fruits & vegetables

 

Why is it bad?

Fruit- and vegetable-flavored foods do not count as a serving of fruits or vegetables. This means that fruit candy, apple granola bars, corn nuts, and guacamole chips don’t count towards the five to 10 servings of fruits and vegetables you should be eating every day.

 

What to do:

Since the only way to give your body the vitamins and minerals it needs is by consuming actual fruits and vegetables. And, in case you thought you could get away without eating the whole carrot or apple, one medium-sized vegetable or fruit, one cup of salad, and half a cup of canned fruit or vegetables all count as one serving.

 

9- Grocery shopping when you’re hungry

 

Why is it bad?

While this isn’t a bad eating habit per se, it’s a bad habit that can lead to unhealthy food choices. When you’re hungry, even your girlfriend’s soy burgers that you’ve been making fun of all week look appetizing. So what makes you think you can walk into a grocery store full of tempting sweet and salty snack foods on an empty, growling stomach and come out with sensible purchases? 

 

What to do:

Eat before you go. Grocery shopping on an empty stomach will only lead to impulse purchases of jumbo-sized chocolate bars, grape soda and party mixes, none of which will make a very satisfying breakfast, lunch or dinner. Grab an apple, a handful of nuts or a quick sandwich before heading to the store and you’re bound to return home with foods that will actually count towards a balanced meal.

 

Be Smart, Eat Smart

Unlike our hairier ancestors, modern life now requires that we have a full-time job other than just foraging for food. But eliminating bad eating habits can still be a viable option for humans today. Simple meal planning and incorporating healthy snacks can make a world of difference in your diet. Stay lean, increase your energy levels and really relish the act of eating.

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WHO IS A SUCCESSFUL PERSON?

Does being born into wealth ie, born by wealthy parents make one successful? Or does being self employed in a society where getting employed is an issue make you successful? The term “successful” can have a number of meanings and associations for different people. For some, a successful person is a person who earns a lot of money in their job, for others success might be best found in a person working in an honorary post.

Success lies in the eye of the beholder. What we ourselves consider as successful might be very different from what other people think about success. A parent might see his son or daughter getting a good grade and think he was successful in his exam, while the student might just think he was lucky. A young girl might see an actress on the television and think that this person must be successful in life, while the actress might consider herself troubled and unhappy because her private life suffers from her popularity as a public figure.

The more areas of life a person strives to be successful in, the more difficult it becomes to achieve his or her goals. Becoming successful could be relatively easy, but staying successful is a different story entirely. Success is usually something we associate with short-term achievement in a certain field. Long-term success, on the other hand, means that you have to keep up the good work and stay at the same level over a longer period of time. If a person achieves long-term success, he or she can truly be called “successful”.

Success can take many shapes. Consequently, there are various types of successful people in the world. There are successful politicians who hold a lot of power over individuals as well as over entire countries. There are successful sportsmen, who win gold medals in world championships and compete in the Olympics. There are successful actors who play a part in big Hollywood or Nollywood productions, and musicians who sell platinum albums and tour the world. Yet there are also activists who manage to save endangered species of animals. There are political activists who demonstrate against the violation of human rights and succeed in freeing political prisoners. There are successful mothers and fathers who see their children develop into great personalities. And there are successful average people, like you and me, who manage to do well at a presentation or succeed in learning a new language.

So who is a successful person to you? This is something I will like to know today, so your opinions are greatly needed. Be inspired! Be enlightened!! Be motivated!!!

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WHAT MAKES PEOPLE SUCCESSFUL…

WHAT MAKES PEOPLE SUCCESSFUL...

What is it that makes people successful and I mean really successful compared to you or me? Are they smarter or do they work harder? Are they risk takers or have powerful and influential friends?

Over time, studying people, being around people I have come to realise that successful people have same traits. So i decided to write down these traits and comment on each of them in hopes of motivating you and myself in the process. It’s time for me to take my own advice and start on the path to my dreams. I hope to motivate you, by using myself as an example.

When ever I see a successful man or woman, I monitor and ask questions and that way, I am able to come up with these traits as what someone or people who want to be successful. I found out that each time I discovered that certain traits are common amongst very successful people, I made a resolution to adopt them and practice them but somehow I usually forget due to the daily hustle and bustle of life. But I have just put them together again and want to share it with you. I hope you take these (not-so-secret) secrets to heart and realize your dreams, whatever they may be. 1. How You Think is Everything.

Always be positive. Think Success, not Failure. Beware of a negative environment.

This trait has to be one of the most important in the entire list. Your belief that you can accomplish your goals has to be unwavering. The moment you say to yourself “I can’t…”, then you won’t. I was always given the advice “never say I can’t” and I’d like to strike those words from the dictionary.

I’ve found that from time-to-time my attitude waivers. A mentor of mine once said “it’s ok to visit pity city, but you can’t stay and there comes a time when you need to leave”. Positive things happen to positive people.

2. Decide upon Your True Dreams and Goals: Write down your specific goals and develop a plan to reach them.

Write down my dreams and goals? Develop a plan to reach them? You mean like a project plan? Yes, that’s exactly what this means. You may have heard the old adage: A New Years resolution that isn’t written down is just a dream, and dreams are not goals.

Goals are those concrete, measurable stepping stones of achievement that track your progress towards your dreams. For example, my goals are to start a career as a Human resource person, working to achieve that through writing, TV presenting and counselling/therapy. – what are your goals? 3. Take Action. Goals are nothing without action.

Be like Nike and “Just do it”. I took action by reaching out and started writing. Every day I try to take some action towards my goals. It may be small, but it’s still an action. Have you taken action towards your goals? 4. Never Stop Learning: Go back to school or read books. Get training & acquire skills.

Becoming a life long learner would benefit us all and is something we should instill in our kids. It’s funny that once you are out of school you realize how enjoyable learning can be. What have you learned today?

5. Be Persistent and Work Hard: Success is a marathon, not a sprint. Never give up.

I think every story of success I read entails long hard hours of work. There is no getting around this and there is no free lunch. But, if you are working towards something that you’re passionate about, something you love – then is it really work?

6. Learn to Analyze Details: Get all the facts, all the input. Learn from your mistakes.

I think you have to strike a balance between getting all the facts and making a decision with incomplete data – both are traits of successful people. Spend time gathering details, but don’t catch *analysis paralysis*.

7. Focus Your Time And Money: Don’t let other people or things distract you.

Remain laser focused on your goals and surround yourself with positive people that believe in you. Don’t be distracted by the naysayer’s or tasks that are not helping you achieve your goals.

8. Don’t Be Afraid To Innovate: Be different. Following the herd is a sure way to mediocrity.

Follow through on that break-out idea you have. Ask yourself “What would I do if I wasn’t afraid?”

9. Deal And Communicate With People Effectively: No person is an island. Learn to understand and motivate others.

Successful people develop and nurture a network and they only do that by treating people openly, fairly and many times firmly. There is nothing wrong about being firm – just don’t cross the a-hole line. How do you deal with people?

10. Be Honest And Dependable: Take responsibility, otherwise numbers 1 – 9 won’t matter.

Enough said.
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MARILYN ANONA writes: Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

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Values tell a lot about what a person is. Values make you. Your values guide you, shape your decisions, priorities and reactions. They serve as markers to tell you your life is moving in the right direction and turning out the way you want it. When our actions and words are aligned with our values, life is generally good and we feel content, confident and satisfied. But when our behaviors don’t match-up with our values, we soon begin to sense an uneasiness that begins to swell and grow inside of us. This uncomfortable feeling tells us that not all is good with the world right now. We feel out-of-whack; out-of-touch and generally out-of-sorts. These feelings can be a source of anxiety and unhappiness. Making a deliberate and conscious attempt to identity which values are the most important is needed to keep your anxiety low and your happiness and sense of personal worth and self-awareness high. Regardless if we recognize them or not, values do naturally exist. Our lives can become less stressful, and more productive, when we acknowledge our personal values – and then make the attempt to live by and honor these values regardless of the circumstances we encounter. Personally, there are values that guide my life and they define me. These values I want to pass on to my kids and nuture them to grow with them. My core value is LOVE. Love is the reason for life. Without love, there would be no life in the 1st place. The presence of love in our life, the love we have for our families, our friends, our faith and for ourselves, is the single most important source of light and energy we can tap into when we have the need to be filled-up; or when we see the need to fill someone else up with grace, hope and our love

Another value very important to me is Integrity. What defines our character and our integrity is not measured by what happens to us, but rather by how we react and respond to what happens to us. Honesty is something I hold on to at all points in my life. To live authentically, to live honesty, keeps our hearts and souls pure and our minds free of doubt or uncertainty. When we are honest, we know we are doing the right things. Forgiveness to me is very essential. To be clear, the purpose of forgiveness is not to absolve someone of the sins committed against you, but to free yourself from the pain and the anger that is keeping you stuck. When you forgive, you are better able to let go of the past and keep moving forward with your life. Charity, loyalty, faithfulness, generousity and fame are also values I live by. Its better and very important to know what your values are so that you live your life in accordance to them. Understanding your own values lead to a happy life. What are your values? Be Enlightened! Be inspired!! Be motivated!!!

REALITY TV SHOWS AND REALITY.

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There has been controversy over the extent to which reality television truly reflects reality. It is supposed to feature unscripted situations, documents actual events and usually features unknowns instead of professional actors. However, various shows have additionally been accused of using fakery in order to create more compelling television, such as having premeditated storyline and in some cases feeding participants lines of dialogue, focusing only on participants’ most outlandish behaviour, and altering events through editing and re-shoots. The truth is that, reality is a misnomer in this so called reality TV programmes. First of all, the environment is not all that real. What is real about for instance keeping youths in a place for 3 months? In competition-based programs such as Big Brother and Survivor, and other special living environment shows like The Real World, the producers design the format of the show and control the day-to-day activities and the environment, creating a completely fabricated world in which the competition plays out. Producers specifically select the participants and use carefully designed scenarios, challenges, events, and settings to encourage particular behaviours and conflicts. Mark Burnett, creator of Survivor and other reality shows, has agreed with this assessment, and avoids the word “reality” to describe his shows; he has said, “I tell good stories. It really is not reality TV. It really is unscripted drama. But what are the sole aim of some of this reality TV shows especially the BIG BROTHER AFRICA that most people can’t afford to miss. Yes I know that Reality television has the potential to turn its participants into national celebrities, at least for a short period, what becomes of you later depends on you. But my concern here and today is what are the aims and objectives of BIG BROTHER AFRICA? Some say its to unite AFRICA.

Please how does BIG BROTHER AFRICA achieve this unity. Some people decided to share their opinion:

BRUNO (Banker, Abuja): My question is…… How does winner emerge? What’s the criteria? Do you become a winner by gossiping running people down and back biting?.. How sad! How about coming up with more intelligent reality shows…..where people will get to compete using their talents, skills and what have you? .Rather than bring adults together to come satisfy their sexual urge in public, forgetting their homes and roots, all just to win what? It’s insensitive, devilish, corrupt and uneducative. Plus it’s an avenue to initiate people. God help them.

ADAOBI (Self employed, port Harcourt): I hate that thing called BBA, I believe people organising that BBA are people of Low self esteem. You just watch people fooling around and at thee end of the day you pay them. There are better things the organisers can do with their money. There are many areas they can invest their money,make their profit and still impact values to the society at large.

NANCY ( Student, Benin City): Never liked BBA, I personally think its controlled by the illuminati, its symbols everywhere in the house. UGO( Banker, Abuja): It’s just a game which teaches patience,understanding,bonding etc and what is wrong with people understanding other cultures and living with it. Everyone gets to meet someone and fall in love which will still lead to some things.

IFEOMA (Lagos): Just love the show, it doesn’t add much to me but I just love it. Its entertaining. DEJI ( IT Specialist Abuja): Time wasting, meant for jobless people that have got flare for just anything life and people bring to them….

DAZZY SAM ( student, warri): Its a messed up programme with no real idea behind it.. Just to show how stupid Africans can be when copying from the western world. Am more amazed by those seating down watching it.. Seat down for hours watching people talk, have sex, drink, party Απϑ lie why not put cameras in their own homes and video themselves. These are some of the opinions viewers of BBA have about the reality TV show. What is your own opinion? Do you think the show is good enough? Do you think it should be improved? We need your opinion!

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